@roknrol Haggling is a very NT thing, and at some level all sales is haggling. Some of it is charisma, some is good old social power dynamics - stuff we're not usually good at. And we do tend to value honesty over manipulation, so the whole idea of selling something by talking it up feels bad. Fold in some rejection sensitivity and a dash of imposter syndrome, and I usually just give stuff away because it's so much easier. I think this is what folks mean by an Autism Tax.
moderation, politics
(This is not to say that I never disagree with court rulings, to be clear - there are plenty of morally bad rulings. But they are almost always clearly consistent with the spirit of the law, and the spirit of the law is what the actual problem is.)
moderation, politics
Like, to clarify, the Dutch legal system allows judges a lot of leeway in making rulings; they are not *bound* by precedent, and they are expected to contextually interpret the legislation to filter out loopholes and 'clever' schemes on the executive layer, even when they were not literally accounted for in the law.
In other words, basically the exact same thing as "moderators have final call on what constitutes bannable behaviour".
moderation, politics
It will never stop amusing me how any time there's a discussion around codes of conduct, there will be a lot of people clutching their pearls about 'miscarriages of justice' and 'making moderators the arbiter of truth' and making analogies to legal systems of nation states...
when this is *literally* how the Dutch legal system works, and it is arguably the only part of the government that actually works correctly
I was excited to read this study until I got to the sample...all men. So while the headline generalizes the findings, they actually have no idea about how exercise changes saturated fat metabolism in women because they did not study women. When reading studies, always look at the sample. Even today women are being excluded from health studies.
https://gizmodo.com/exercise-changes-saturated-fat-metabolism-study-1851481654
I would love if all the people who did foss stuff because they like working with and helping other people moved to instances specifically having that in their rules, that way we could just block out all the foss instances that have people who are hostile because they only care about the product rather than the community and ecosystem.
The more I see of this (and thanks to blocking a bunch of domains I don't see these things often) the more I understand the issues people have with the foss environment.
I promise you, there are many many people out there wo will instead of yelling you for using proprietary software, will sit down with you, talk about what you need and want, and make a few suggestions for foss replacements so you can get back your freedom as a user. They will understand that sometimes you need features and that using something proprietary is unavoidable and they would hate that, but they wouldn't shame you for doing so. They are really in it to move away from the stuff that holds us as a society back, and they want it to be a smooth transition for all of us.
If you hate foss environments because they're just not that way, I promise you, there are other places that are. It's not foss as a whole, and we would hate to see you avoid foss because of those toxic people that most of us don't like either *sigh*
nix governance, politics-ish
Important context here is that the process where this was brought up, was very explicitly a consensus-seeking process, and "raising concerns" was explicitly a core part of sorting things out. Even despite that explicit model, some people still felt no sense of obligation.
nix governance, politics-ish
During the Nix governance talks, a number of participants objected to things like marginalized seats - but crucially, they didn't seem to feel any obligation whatsoever to raise specific concerns.
I don't mean that they were just evading the question, or being shitty; I mean that they seemed genuinely unprepared for the question of "okay, but why?", and just did not consider or expect "raising a specific concern" to be a part of the process of objection.
I feel like there are some lessons to be drawn from this about what people's everyday decisionmaking processes look like, and how that ties into the political landscape we have today.
Never ceases to stump me that we have the technology to kill 99.95% of airborne viruses, proven to work, non-invasive, cheap to deploy and install, and is produced at scale already and we just like - collectively - kind of just don't really use it.
HEPA-grade air filtration is proven, cheap, and makes everyone's lives strictly better. It, like, makes zero fiscal sense for governments not to mandate its use in all covered public spaces ASAP.
Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
Sometimes horny on main (behind CW), very much into kink (bondage, freeuse, CNC, and other stuff), and believe it or not, very much a submissive bottom :p
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Further boundaries: boosts are OK (including for lewd posts), DMs are open. But the devil doesn't need an advocate; I'm not interested in combative arguing in my mentions. I am however happy to explain things in-depth when asked non-combatively.
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Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.