Sven Slootweg (soft-deprecated) @joepie91@pixie.town

Dear Wired,

Why, exactly, do you expect me to pay you for a subscription if you cannot even be respectful enough of my mental health to *not* shove autoplay corner videos into my face?

I still feel that Twitter's fiery death and the subsequent migration of folks to fedi has, on the whole, done more harm than good to the fediverse.

The problem isn't even the amount of people, or their background - the problem is the *timing*. A large mass of people who didn't really *want* fedi, but who were searching for a 'new Twitter' and this was the only option available to them, for one reason or another.

They never had the time to lurk around and explore the community before getting involved in it; or the time to understand the dynamics here at their own speed. Because the Other Place was on fire and they had to move their social venue ASAP.

This caused a lot of disregard for the existing community dynamics, and that combined plus the volume caused tensions with existing users.

In this context, the reasons that people give for moving to Bluesky (https://mas.to/@kissane/110793942888550843) don't remotely surprise me. Many people are *still* looking for a 'new Twitter', and Bluesky is much closer to that.

I think that's important to keep in mind when evaluating those reasons: they should not necessarily be seen as 'problems with fedi', so much as 'reasons why fedi is not suitable as a drop-in Twitter alternative'.

That doesn't automatically make people *wrong* for having those problems with fedi, either. But the answer may very possibly be "fedi is not Twitter, and this community just isn't a good fit for you." It doesn't *need* to be for everybody.

(I would also be remiss not to mention the corrosive role of the press and Gargron in this; both severely misrepresented what fedi is. For different reasons, but it has caused a lot of people to feel like they didn't get what they were promised.)

The curse of spotting the early signs of toxic behaviour: if you don't tell others they will be like "well how could we have known if you didn't tell us" later, but if you *do* tell them then they will take every opportunity to find justifications for why it's actually not that bad and they're not quite seeing it etc. etc.

Bonus points for this dude mocking the attempt at a Matrix fork, because imagine that, an anarchist organizing an alternative if the existing thing doesn't work anymore, surely that can't be taken seriously 🙄

"Anarchist" does not mean "I'm allowed to be shitty to anyone I want and pollute community resources without any consequences", you *are* actually expected to do the "accounting for other people's needs" part as well

(Leaving this here as a FAQ since I get this 'question' entirely too often.)

Because every single time I engage in a discussion with an XMPP proponent, it takes less than 5 minutes to get to "XMPP is fine, you just need to adjust your expectations/requirements", and this FOSSbro attitude is *exactly* why I jumped ship from the XMPP community years ago.