re: ableist behaviour patterns
(It is worth noting that this same dynamic, of course, exists along other axes of marginalization too. But right now I'm venting about my own experiences.)
re: ableist behaviour patterns
The reason this especially frustrates me is because I go to rather *extreme* lengths to communicate with people on their own turf, to try and resolve conflicts, translate between neurotypical and neurospicy folks, and so on... this is a whole special interest for me.
And then I communicate in my own way once and I immediately get told off for it, with nobody in the process making even the most minimal effort to account for *my* needs or circumstances, not even bothering to acknowledge their understanding of what I have just had to spend energy to explain and 'defend' myself on *once again*
ableist behaviour patterns
It was the usual pattern again:
- Someone means X but says Y
- I interpret it as Y
- I get told off for not interpreting it as X
- I point out that people should say what they mean, and that I have to deal with masking all my life, and I draw the line at being told that it is *expected* from me
- Deathly silence, conversation moves onto another topic, no acknowledgment, no apologies, nothing
I just whined about this elsewhere, but this makes a good post, so:
1. a very good feature of default Win32 message boxes is that they implement Ctrl-C to copy the error message and window title into the clipboard (formatted and everything)
2. way too few people know this, and accordingly, custom message boxes basically never implement this
3. if you work on custom UI libraries that have some message box facility, you should!
🌶️ programming take
If you don't have enough time to do both the documentation and the code polishing/testing in your project, the code work is the work that you should drop and leave to the community, not the documentation.
You *can* properly implement something that is documented, but you *can't* properly document something that is implemented unless you are the creator with full context of why it works the way it does.
Anyways, this poll was inspired by a research drive earlier in the week into text rendering systems, because if it wasn't bad enough already that text rendering is an endless source of hell problems, they also all seem to have totally random licenses. I'm developing a deep deep hatred for licenses, especially the GPL and LGPL. It goes well with my deep deep general hatred of copyright and patents.
🌶️ programming take
If you don't have enough time to do both the documentation and the code polishing/testing in your project, the code work is the work that you should drop and leave to the community, not the documentation.
You *can* properly implement something that is documented, but you *can't* properly document something that is implemented unless you are the creator with full context of why it works the way it does.
Let’s talk about a problem - software cannot be trusted anymore. In the past, if I allowed an app to send me notifications, I’d get alerted for things I wanted to hear about. Now every app uses spurious notifications as a way to artificially boost their daily active user count. I am one by one having to shut off notifications on apps that used to be reliable products. I’ve disabled notifications on linkedin because it keeps sending me ads and random unnecessary alerts.
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Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.