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Heads-up: I'm likely going to be unfollowing quite a few people in the next week or so. The reason for (almost) all of them is going to be the same: continuous posting of negative/doom-ish/inciting/etc. things without CWs.

I'm finding it increasingly difficult to keep my feed from becoming a depressing hellscape, and it's apparently not possible to keep these follows in a list without also having them show up in my main feed.

Note that I'm mainly talking here about people tooting 'news' articles and such, calls to action, and so on. I understand that these are meant to 'make people aware' of a topic, but I am exceedingly aware of these things by this point and it does not help anyone to overload my emotional system with it constantly, least of all the people affected by the tragedy being described.

It is simply Too Much, and it is actively keeping me from actually being able to *do* anything about any of it. It paralyzes through depression.

So I've decided, for both my own mental health and my ability to actually work towards effective change, to start unfollowing the people I mainly see this from. This will, unfortunately, include almost every Dutch person I follow too, since CWs do not seem to have caught on on Dutch fedi.

It is not a personal thing but it also sort of is; if this stuff would be behind CWs consistently, or even just most of the time, it wouldn't have been an issue. So it's not about who you are personally, but it *is* the result of a choice you have made to not CW things. I will occassionally check in (there is a reason I followed you in the first place!) and reevaluate if that changes.

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PSA: personal health, surgery and risks, availability 

If all goes to plan, I will be receiving a kidney transplantation on November 12 (2024), followed by an unknown recovery period. What to expect:

After the transplantation, I will not be around online for a while; this could be anywhere from a few days to a few months depending on how well (or not) the surgery goes. Even after I return, I will likely be avoiding stress for a while, which also means I may drop out of things unannounced.

In the time leading up to the transplantation, I will become less and less consistently available, and you may see me around less, as I deal with the preparations for the surgery.

I'm receiving a kidney from a living donor, under pretty much best-case circumstances (no dialysis), so the chance of success is high, and the chance of complications is low, but it is not zero. Likewise, survival chance is high but not 100%.

If the transplantation succeeds, I will be able to live a mostly normal life, but I will be on immunosuppressive medicine for the rest of my life. Among other things, this means that you're probably only going to see me at (hacker) events that take sufficient precautions against COVID and the like.

So if you want me and other immunocompromised folks around at those events, ask organizers to take those precautions! Ventilation/filtering and CO2 measurement is a good baseline.

If you have any questions about all this, feel free to ask, but I may or may not have the spoons to answer them.

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Why I do not like hanging around liberals anymore 

Because they're like oppression lootboxes.

The liberal viewpoint is not one of intersectionality; they might sound very progressive and recognize one or more types of oppression, but do not (wish to) recognize the way these interact, or the structure and patterns that underlie all of them.

This means that it's only a matter of time before I hear them say some extremely shitty and/or bigoted stuff about a topic that they don't recognize as a form of oppression, but I can't know upfront which topic it will be, or when it'll happen.

With my intersectional friends, I could then just point out that it's a form of oppression, and they will take it seriously, introspect, and work (over time) to understand it. Mistakes happen, but they will try to learn. All I need to do, is remind them.

With liberals, however... they do not recognize it as another occurrence of the same thing, and so I am left having to "prove" from whole cloth that yes, it really is a form of oppression, before they are even willing to put in *any* effort to understand the problem.

Every time this happens, it takes hours of my time, and energy that I do not have to spare.

I am already running on fumes most of the time, and I honestly just don't really want to hang around people who put that sort of price on not being shitty.

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A reminder that if you are on hackers.town, mstdn.party, or mstdn.social (and a couple other less common instances), I will not see your replies!

These servers are silenced here because while there are a fair amount of nice folks on there, they *also* have moderation issues or a set of policies that's just not compatible with that of pixie.town.

If you want to make sure that your replies arrive here, I would recommend moving to a smaller instance with better moderation and vibes :) Preferably one where you (can get to) know the people running it!

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I've actually been here for a while already, though mostly inactive! The Birdsite Situation prompted me to pop in here again. And I'm terrible at writing introductions, so I usually just say "I do stuff on the internet".

But uh, I do all sorts of activist-y stuff, work on radical FOSS (see cryto.net/~joepie91/manifesto.), write (educational) stuff, am more or less a lonely polyamorous gender blob of indeterminate sexuality who likes both cuddles and kinky things, and I always have 10 times as many projects as I have time for, as is customary with ADHD brain :) Sometimes I even finish some of them!

While I'm an introvert and need plenty of time to myself, I *am* happy to meet like-minded people and spend time with them, and as long as you're not a bigot or apologist, you should feel free to interact with me and/or follow me!

Also, I live in Rosmalen (near Den Bosch) in the Netherlands, and honestly would like to get to know more local folks, and I also have some vague intention to start a queer hackerspace around here if I can find enough interested people. Eventually!

I find it really fascinating how an ever-increasing proportion of "folks I have stayed in touch with after meeting them in various completely unrelated communities over the past 15 years" are turning out to be trans in some way (even if I have a pretty good idea about why this happens)

subtoot, schools, LLMs 

Like, I get it, LLMs are terrible and all, and you won't find me disagreeing there, but "our sacred homework standards!" is extremely *not* the hill to be dying on there

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subtoot, schools 

"Why would you use LLMs to do your homework instead of learning things??"

...because students are coerced into doing homework they never asked for and they have been taught for a decade+ that grades are the only thing that matters, and so they have no real choice but to optimize their participation in this bizarre social dance of pretending to learn things to participate in society?

If only people had been warning for decades that common schooling methods are inefficient and encouraging the wrong things. If only.

Annual reminder: In addition to preventing virus transmission, N95 masks are great for keeping your face warm in the winter! 😷❄️

Finally being a programmer paid off, I opened a pull request to fix a bug in the scoring app for one of my board games

can this post be boosted around im trying to find more to follow in this realm and in this instance

#otherkin #punk #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtqia #leftist #leftists #queer #xenogender

transphobia, harassment 

My SECOND overt transphobia ever! Dang, they're coming often now!

I'm walking down the street, minding my business, some kid, he wasn't even twenty probably gives me a weird look. Then another. Then another.

Don't judge a book by its cover, but this guy is not winning any Nobel Prizes anytime soon. He doesn't have a very... thoughtful expression. Even though he's clearly puzzled.

I don't bother, I do look... striking today, and I've been given looks before. We stop at a red light. I don't look at him because who gives a fuck.

"What's that you're wearing?", I hear. The verb "wearing" genders me as a guy.

I look at the guy "pardon me?"

"What're you wearing? Why'd you leave the house like this?"

He's still gendering me make. I repeat the verb at him in the correct gender to correct him. He repeats the incorrect verb. It goes back and forth like this two times. I smirk.

"You're a boy", he says accusingly. He's about half my age but he uses the familiar "you". It's a bit rude in Polish to address a stranger like that. Also, "boy"? Fucker, I could be your mother, lmfao.

I smile. "Nope, I'm a girl".

"You're a boy". He's very angry.

I laugh a little. "Whatever you say." The light is green. I cross the street.

"Faggot.", I hear behind me. I turn sharply and take just one step towards him. I'm a good deal bigger and taller than him.

He scurries away like the rat he is. He taunts me, implying he wants to get violent. But curiously, whenever I take one step towards him, he takes two steps back.

He keeps acting "tough". I'm losing my patience, so I calmly but menacingly invite him to show me what he's got. He moves even further away, all the way talking shit.

"You're running away that easily? That was quick", I comment and move on.

Transphobes are weak spineless bitches. So are homophobes. I'm pissed off, but also very satisfied with this encounter. Those shits are weak. Even the ones who are physically strong.

prisons, spicy take to some 

Imprisonment is a form of torture, no matter how 'humane' it is on paper, and should be treated as such from an ethical perspective.

And when you argue for imprisoning people as a form of 'justice', you are arguing for torture as a form of 'justice', with all of the implications that that has.

It's just a form of torture that's easy to rationalize if you don't want to confront those implications.

(I've figured out my own but want to see if there are any better options out there)

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Are there any established algorithms for merging multiple overlapping but gappy sequences of items into a single sequence?

One of weird things about being autistic is when I make observations about people and then they get creeped out or tell me it was unsettling.

Like, I'm literally commenting on something
so obvious to me that it would have felt weird not to say something.

And I should note that I am saying this with an acute awareness of React having problems of its own, and being unamused by its internal complexity, and not *really* liking it.

But I've also learned not to trust promises of solutions that don't come with a clear understanding of the problem domain attached, because it usually means that someone is trying to sell you something, for money or otherwise.

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I would take criticisms of the React model a lot more seriously if those criticisms actually critized, y'know, the React model, and weren't just picking on a bunch of badly designed libraries that happen to be built on top of it, or complaining about websites that happen to use it.

The same applies to supposedly 'better alternatives' for React. I'll take those seriously once they demonstrate an actual understanding of the problem space that React tries to inhabit - because very often they are 'better' by simply jettisoning some of the design goals that inform React's design, and so they can't actually replace it.

(Inspired by, but not a subtoot of, another toot about React)

Anyway! People talk to me about feeling weird about writing and there’s this whole complex about innate talent and like, “who should calls themselves a writer,” and meh, I’m not having it.

Clearer and more structured thinking through writing is our birthright, and although we all start at different points and with different brain architectures, if you want to write you should write! And if you do it like any other mindful and reflexive practice you will develop deeper and subtler power. 🌬️

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Tis the season again at work, I guess.

The season when the Covid-induced Angry get upset at the Covid-induced Forgetful and I have to manage personal expectations of each other.

The season when I have to cover for multiple absences, of either people actually out sick, or out caring for their sick kids, or for people trying to work with too much brain fog to actually accomplish anything.

The season of people’s smiles fading when they ask what I’m doing for the holidays, and I say that I’m staying home for another year.

Another year of wondering how long I can keep my job while acting as a reminder to everyone of The Thing That Must Be Forgotten.

Another year of wondering how long society can function like this.

#Covid #CovidIsNotOver #WearAMask #LongCovid

I want to think out loud about writing for a second before I go into proper weekend mode, so if you hate that and find it self-indulgent or whatever, this is your warning. (I think feeling weird about feeling weird about writing is what keeps people from writing, and I don’t think gatekeeping about it is anything but an unproductive and ego-protective bummer, myself, but that’s just me.)

"hmm it's been a while since I made any toots about technical stuff. a cute pun just came to me, and from it I could build a little emotional vignette that non tech people can also understand the pathos of. I think it's ok to post one (1) toot about computers this one time."

(goes to sleep before the USA people wake up)
(wakes up next morning)
(237 replies from men telling me how to fix a fictionalised version of an issue I had 2 years ago in the field I have 23 years of professional experience in)

"I have remembered why I stopped making tech toots"

Social Media Sites if they were Table Top Roleplay NPCs, a thread.

1) Tumblr. A very well dressed, witty and urbane goblin, that keeps stealing sandwiches and making a nest out of stripy knee length socks. Has ninety seven different celebrity shrines.

@reinderdijkhuis I submitted ten of my best puns to a pun contest, knowing that one of them would win. But no pun in ten did.

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