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@pandemoniumcrutch wow, this sounds amazing. I've never seen PT treatment transition like that. I have hypermobility issues with partial patellar subluxation.

Do you have any advice for finding a PT who is willing and qualified to treat via any strategies other than strengthening?

@fack I know this vibe well. I try to throw a dinner party every time I make soup.

@shardsofblue yeah, afab enby here and it totally seems transphobic-by-ignorance to me. It's very silly to assume a trans person's egg-situation "gender experiences" are ever predictable, relevant, or helpful.

I suggest looking up non-toxic masculine dating advice videos. You know, for dudes. Although he did fuck up while GMing a tabletop role playing game, a male friend of mine found Adam Koebel's YouTube videos helpful. He's a queer dude and you might vibe with his approach. Unfortunately, I'm not seeing a video to recommend, so this might not be all that helpful after all.

My friend was having issues with being afraid of being a creep (to the point at which he struggled to do things like order coffee from a girl or compliment her shirt) and he said Adam's office hours and relational videos were helpful. He didn't immediately turn into some jerk, so they seemed good to me.

Regardless, best of luck. I hope things get comfier. :)

@werefox hi! Wanna get coffee sometime?

@PetraPhoenix @3goodthings you could use in-bie as a terrible pun. Like enby crossed with in-law.

I'm not aware of a more tidy term, though.

@kf my girlfriend and I ran across a place like this in a suburb of Minneapolis.

The food looked great-- rich, deep red sauce, green guacamole, whatever, right? But it was so bland that we were convinced they used only paprika in everything. We were so, so sad about it.

It all looked so good! But it just tasted like *nothing*.

My condolences.

@wgahnagl this is amazing and I would like to make one for myself. I've made cloaks before, but never ones with heating coils!

Did you use anything for a reference for your heaters?

@t54r4n1 imagine how cool a little bench mobile would be.

Like a little scooter or something, but it's just a bench that you can chill on. Idk. I think I just want this imaginary benchmobile to be my friend. Maybe it's a bicycle that folds in some way into a bench for pals? Maybe it's more like a roomba? I dunno!

I agree that the lack of public seating is nefarious and toxic. But I would totally love to see silly accessible bench friends around to help combat this aggressive, damaging miserliness. An old car costs a thousand bucks (for a bad one) and is pretty good to sit on top of. Thirty grand is a number someone made up because they don't want them to happen.

@wgahnagl this sounds incredible. Can I learn more?

@MerlinJStar@weirder.earth I can super relate to "kinda dumb but mostly cheerful" brain state.

If I can, I just don't push through tough brain days. I do easier stuff and take more breaks, instead. Sometimes, if I have energy for the harder stuff near the end of my work time, I do it then. If my world is making working hard, I like figuring out what my actual time tables for finishing stuff are, and being extra gentle on myself when I can. Stressing about not working wears me down a lot, so I try to avoid it.

If it's feasible for you, you might like to go for a chill little adventure for an hour or two while the noises happen, and work for a bit when ya get back instead. You might have more energy than if you'd tried to push through the disruption.

I don't mean to tell ya how to live your life, though. I definitely relate to your situation... 😅

@jennie@artisan.chat @nickferris @sewing @Curator I adore the muting effect from sheer overlay here. Gorgeous!

@fack nah, sugar dissolves in water. You use all these, like, at the sink, just wash your hands with them like it's soap, then rinse it off.

@fack I cannot recommend a hand scrub enough for when hands get, like, a layer of dry skin so much that lotion doesn't penetrate.

Here's a random recipe, but really, any salt and any skin safe oil should work (https://www.creeklinehouse.com/diy-gardeners-hand-scrub-mason-jar/). Especially with men, it seems like the salt (or sugar or whatever) really helps the oil penetrate better. I dunno if oily hands are better than slippery ones, though.

If you wanna buy it in a store, any old body scrub should work alright, too, but some of those have a little soap in them to help em wash off, which might not help your situation as much as one with less soap would. I like to get something really thick in a jar, especially if I can see chunks of salt or oil in it.

I also really like whipped cocoa butter for my skin, but since Glazed By Kay is not selling stuff right now, my usual shop won't help ya much. Lol