@shardsofblue@queer.party yeah, afab enby here and it totally seems transphobic-by-ignorance to me. It's very silly to assume a trans person's egg-situation "gender experiences" are ever predictable, relevant, or helpful.

I suggest looking up non-toxic masculine dating advice videos. You know, for dudes. Although he did fuck up while GMing a tabletop role playing game, a male friend of mine found Adam Koebel's YouTube videos helpful. He's a queer dude and you might vibe with his approach. Unfortunately, I'm not seeing a video to recommend, so this might not be all that helpful after all.

My friend was having issues with being afraid of being a creep (to the point at which he struggled to do things like order coffee from a girl or compliment her shirt) and he said Adam's office hours and relational videos were helpful. He didn't immediately turn into some jerk, so they seemed good to me.

Regardless, best of luck. I hope things get comfier. :)