digging up some old meta frustrations that still bother me
Like, to be clear, I totally agree that you should be patient and welcoming to newcomers who need time to find their place, when you want to expand that community! It's crucially important, and if you're going to be trying to tempt people over, you also need to do the work of making it work for them.
But we never got to that point! We never even had broad agreement that people *should* be invited to move over here!
US politics adjacent; Personal relationships
This post brought to you by an angry American who voted Democrat and counts himself a politics hero because he posted so many pro-Harris memes and did: absolutely nothing else, and now he blames me personally because he read about Trudeau talking about foreign interference in (Canadian) elections, assumed that he was talking about the US (what else could he talk about) and then informed me that Canadians didn't do enough and this is why Trump won
digging up some old meta frustrations that still bother me
"Bringing in new people without talking to the existing folks" is something you do when you're trying to do a capitalism, not when you're building or fostering a community
digging up some old meta frustrations that still bother me
The problem with chiding people on "you should be more welcoming to newcomers to fedi" has always been that nobody ever bothered to ask those people whether they actually *wanted* the place to grow bigger, it was just assumed to be okay and then when people objected to this, those objections were immediately paved over
there was this fedi post from a while ago about how community isn't a party that you show up to, expecting to be served. it's more like a potluck, you're supposed to bring something to the table too. I think about that a lot. it's just really good to remember. everyone wants community but it's so easy to forget to participate in building it. I wish I realized that earlier. now I'm just hoping that I learn how to interact with people better and feel more assertive about my agency over the spaces I occupy.
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Now that their failing campaign is over here’s to hoping the #Mastodon4Harris libs redirect their funds to mutual aid, especially for marginalized people in the US whose communities have been destroyed by the successive Republican & Democrat administrations 🙃
**So what is this Defaidodon thing that people are talking about today?**
Defaidodon is a bit of a play on words, with the first part being the Welsh word for sheep (defaid - in this case a plural word), plus the second half of Mastodon, to make a new hashtag. It grew out of some silliness on the Welsh instance toot.cymru around the time when lots of people joined up.
@nnedi “The exercise of imagination is dangerous to those who profit from the way things are because it has the power to show that the way things are is not permanent, not universal, not necessary.” - Ursula Le Guin
#AskFedi: Is there a single, concise name for the "./configure, make, make install" build workflow, and variants thereof?
Suggestions, please, and reposts.
I want to develop a local network of trust for sharing care activities across households and without the intermediation of money.
Local means within a 30-minute walk from my residence.
Network of trust means each participant in the network has clear and reliable expectations about what others in the network can do
Care activities means child care, elder care, tutoring, home and garden care, cooking, household chores, shopping and many other things we tend to think of as internal to each household (or paid service work).
Across households means not bounded by individual residences or family relations.
Without the intermediation of money means no form of monetary compensation, neither directly nor through some assignment of points or other values.
Just people helping each other.
I feel like I am describing something not at all new and yet bewilderingly unknown and complex in the present.
"A security culture is a set of customs shared by a community whose members may be targeted by the government, designed to minimize risk. Having a security culture in place saves everyone the trouble of having to work out safety measures over and over from scratch, and can help offset paranoia and panic in stressful situations—hell, it might keep you out of prison, too."
— What is Security Culture? | Crimethinc.
https://ru.crimethinc.com/2004/11/01/what-is-security-culture
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