TKDB zine workshop on supporting trans kids, food mention, family mention
Trans kids often lack family support. Home can be a hostile environment; they may be in the care system. Found family is one way of talking about alternative support networks but family doesn’t work for everyone - care networks, sibling networks, queer community… there are many ways to talk about the same basic needs
In practical terms this can mean offering quiet spaces to study, or opportunities to cook and be cooked for. Kids in care aren’t allowed to cook in their accommodation and don’t have many opportunities to acquire the skills. Or just a chance to regularly spend time with adults who’ll make space for them and listen. Regular contact and a stable routine is important
Some things I remember from the conversations we had:
“Protect trans kids” is a bad slogan. What does “protect” actually mean? It’s isolating, it’s disempowering, and it doesn’t centre kids’ needs. (The same applies to “protect the dolls”, more or less.) Listen to trans kids. Empower trans kids. Arm trans kids. Metaphorically, with the things they need for autonomy
Kids have very little voice or autonomy, as anyone who remembers being a kid should know. But autonomy for kids doesn’t mean treating them as adults - kids lack resources, knowledge, and experience. They need support to be autonomous
I love how nobody in the business world ever talks about how Facebook renamed themselves to Meta because "the metaverse" was going to change how we did everything, which then became a colossal failure and a pathetic joke of a project that cratered spectacularly and they're still just... called that. Named after a spectacular failure. And the market barely even took note
What do these people *need*, what magical incantation do I need to cast to get them to take their head out of their fucking ass
Like. The vast majority of conversation I see about Matrix today is "people trying to figure out how and when to move away from it".
I don't know how much clearer it can be that there's a problem.
Like, they seem insistent on pretending there is no problem with their approach, despite the mounting evidence that things are fucked, and it's infuriating
By this point I honestly don't know anymore what's necessary to make (some specific) Element people understand that they've already breached the trust thermocline and they are rapidly dooming #Matrix if they continue on their current path
good time for spotting fish on the fish doorbell!
@jonny seeing things coming just makes it worse when we're right
@jonny can we just say we've been really annoyed how none of the debates about mozilla's now-gone funding model we've been in over the last ten years, led to any way to convince the org to pivot? bleh
Dunno, if people jaywalk so much in a place that you have to put up a sign forbidding it maybe that means you forgot to install the pedestrian infrastructure.
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