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@estrogenandspite yeah literally anything that is in violation of "traditional domme stereotype" becomes super hot when wielded as a dominant aesthetic. small dommes, high-fem dommes, soft-voiced dommes, pastel goth dommes. size queen bottom dommes. Valley Girl barbie dommes. all hot.
money codes for power so there's an aspect to domme aesthetics which is like, expensive natural latex catsuits, fancy customised floggers, brand-name stilettos... I don't have that kind of expendable cash and never will, and felt self-conscious at all the like, fancy studio photos that other dommes post wearing outfits that cost more than what I need to feed my family for a month. so I doubled down on it and came up with a working class butch domme persona—steel-tipped workshoes, black jumpsuit, bare muscular arms to spank with calloused boxer hands. balaclava. rope. that was hot as fuck.
this is because confidence and individuality are hot, and breaking with a stereotype shows confidence. so if you feel self-conscious about something, double down on it.
works the other way around too, like a big giantess amazon of a sub or an older woman sub or an aggressive-looking punk butch sub. all hot <3
Kink discussion
I think part of the reason so many trans women are uncomfortable being dommes is because being dominant is often treated as something that is antithetical to being cute. You hear “If you’re surrounded by stuffies then clearly you want someone to take charge” or “if you use :3 I’m going to assume you want to get bent over and railed” or “real dommes wear intimidating outfits, not cute colors.”
And I’m here to tell you: Fuck all of that.
I’m a domme. I sleep in a bed of stuffies. I once broke a riding crop across someone’s back. I use :3. I sometimes get a consenting person so deep in hypnosis she’s literally drooling on herself. I wear pastels when I’m in the mood. I have the will and skill to absolutely leave a partner a whimpering, quivering mess barely able to speak.
You can be cute and dominant, you can be soft and in control, you can be a caring and a sadist.
So if you want to be the domme, don’t think that means you have to sacrifice being cute. Embrace both. Wear pastels as you lock someone onto a St. Andrew’s cross, give a sub one of your stuffies. Go :3 as you make someone scream.
As long as you have consent and are following proper safety and aftercare, find the style that works for you.
Banning swearing in Formula One could be bad for drivers – a linguist explains
#swearing #profanity #linguistics #F1 #racing #motorsport #FormulaOne #censorship
This is my favorite photo for demonstrating the impact of #LightPollution on physiology. The image was taken by shows a soybean field illuminated by a badly directed streetlight.
What's happening here is that soybeans are supposed to grow leaves in the early part of summer, and as nights get longer, they should make #soybeans and turn brown. In the green area, the plants don't understand what time of year it is, and it's therefore a complete loss for the farmer.
The reason I love the photo so much is because you can see the shadow of the light mast on the field.
The photo was taken by Dwaine Eddie McGriff & Ben Tankersley, and originally posted to Xitter (the post no longer exists).
The problem could be entirely solved by using a streetlight with strong backlight shielding (i.e. shining the light only on the roadway).
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The EU is paying a fortune for broken commercial software, criticizes Michiel Leenaars of the Dutch NLnet Foundation in an interview with netzpolitik.org. Together with his team, he supports open-source, free solutions — funded by the EU. But that could soon come to an end.
@pascaline die vind ik stiekem ook mooi.
Mijn bollen staan in een stuk tuin, waar ook andere planten staan. Planten die pas zo'n beetje gaan groeien en bloeien als de meeste bollen tegen hun eind lopen.
Ik ben best een luie tuinierder (vooral omdat ik niet goed ben in gestructureerd dingen aanpakken, dat geeft dan stress en dan doe ik dus niks), en laat het meeste in de tuin dus met rust. Dat alles zo'n neetje in laagjes/ fases door elkaar heen loopt js dus ideaal en een bewuste keus.
Voorjaar in de tuin! Naast de krokusjes zag ik nu ook de eerste narcisknopjes. De sneeuwklokjes zijn zo goed als uitgebloeid, maar mijn "regenpijpplantje" zit vol in de knopjes!
#lente #voorjaar #Bloomscrolling
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Wat leuk! @Trouw schrijft over het eenvoudige initiatief tegen eenzaamheid in een HEMA-filiaal: Bij het restaurant staat “een bord, met daarnaast een bak vol badeendjes: 'In je eendje? Zet een eendje op tafel als je openstaat voor een gesprek of contact met andere bezoekers van ons restaurant.'”
Would you like to see the new doubledecker trains that were ordered by the Dutch railways?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pC6IWSM3fC4
Hoe veel winst maakt de A2 ondertussen?
I wrote a postmortem of the University of Washington harassment investigation. I don’t get into details but I do explain my perspective and name the men involved, plus some lessons learned at the end. https://irenezhang.net/blog/2025/03/04/uw-harassment.html
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Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.