hospital/doctor advice for neurospicy folks
If you get some uselessly vague advice like "don't eat/do things like <list of hyperspecific examples and nothing else>", keep talking and asking (and mentioning your understanding so far out loud repeatedly, even if it's probably wrong!) until they tell you the underlying mechanism.
Example:
"Avoid intensive exercise."
"Okay, what qualifies as 'intensive'?"
"Well, try to avoid sports like football or tennis, for example."
"Okay, but what about VR then? It's virtual so you can't get hit by anything, but I don't know if that's safe enough."
"Ah, well, you should avoid any kind of exercise that causes shocks to your body, like when jumping a lot."
And just like that, you learn the underlying mechanism that the advice originates from (which might be "shocks to your body can cause issues with healing" like in this case), and now you can reason for yourself about whether something is or isn't safe to do, instead of being limited to a (usually heavily neurotypical) set of 'common' things.
(Sometimes you can also just ask point blank what the underlying mechanism is, but it's pretty much luck of the draw whether you get a doctor who trusts you enough to actually engage with that.)
Posting this in English too because it's just baffling.
Albert Heijn, a Dutch supermarket chain, has been spending significant piles of money advertising their new "AH Terra" store brand, which is supposed to be all about plant-based food.
They've just rebranded their canned beans to fall under that brand, and to 'celebrate', they published a magazine with bean-based recipes.
Half of which use dairy ingredients. 🤦♂️
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tech ethics
How do you decide if a project is too likely to be used unethically for you to be willing to work on?
Some cases are obvious, but a zillion things are "dual use".
Designing a quadcopter 10 years ago would have been unambiguously okay with me. Now I'm not sure it's possible to work on without it ending up used for surveillance, targeting weapons, etc.
Does anyone have a framework for analyzing these things that works? I feel like I'm playing devil's advocate on *both* sides.
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