Queer pride, shame and mental health
This one is particularly important for me.
I struggle with my orientation. I'm genuinely ashamed of it, and I constantly feel like a square peg trying to fit in to a round hole when my peers in my community are invariably sapphic.
So pride month hits me hard, because suddenly my community starts taking pride in not being like me. And even though I know every queer person complaining or joking about "the straights" doesn't mean me, I still see that messaging. I still internalise it. I'm still ashamed of something I didn't choose and can't change. The messaging from my own community implying that I'm not a member of that community is like a slap every time I see it.
I know we don't really have commonly accepted alternative language, but fuck I wish we did. I want to be able to carry the same pride the rest of the community does, instead of feeling ashamed and different
Another #PrideMonth reminder. As I mentioned earlier, it's important that we don't use gay as a stand in for the whole queer community represented by pride.
There's another side to that coin though. It's important that we don't use straight to mean "not part of the queer community"
There are straight intersex folks, straight trans folks, queer people in straight passing relationships etc, all of whom see the messaging that others them from their community. Let's aim for inclusion
I can't believe I've started Pride Month off by seeing someone demand that LGBTQ+ people "be respectable" and adhere to "traditional social values".
Fuck that. Be outré. Be avant-garde. Be... some other French word that means "weird". Pride isn't about fitting in and going with the flow. Pride is about being yourself and doing it, well, proudly.
so 65% of about 250 said they don't care about exclusive perks when they are a subscriber or patron to an artist or project. many comments highlighted the desire to 'just support', help artist do their thing. some are even actively looking for ways to not receive extra exclusives in order to not make artist work more just for that.
i think that's quite interesting.
#Recycling was a scam to sell more #plastics. This has been a bit of an open secret. "Analysts now expect #plastic production to triple by 2050."
https://www.npr.org/2020/09/11/897692090/how-big-oil-misled-the-public-into-believing-plastic-would-be-recycled?t=1654049196078
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