One analytical lens I love for interactions is "consent vs control". Here you see a Gmail pop-up for their GenAI "assistant". Do I want this? No. But my choices are "Learn more" and "Continue". My consent is assumed, making it a controlling interaction. You see this a lot these days, like where you choices aren't yes and no, but yes and "ask me later". It always makes me wonder what kind of personal relationships the people who do this have.
@gsuberland My point is that the entire assumption of it being about 'ideological purity' is misplaced. And I have heard these exact same arguments a million times, particularly about "the realities of actually getting work done" and the common factor has always been that the people declaring it impossible never made a serious effort to see if it actually was.
@gsuberland I am well aware of this, and waving away these concerns as being down to "ideological purity" is very much a part of the pet peeve.
health update, transplantation, very positive
It is now day 4 after my kidney transplantation. Today's improvements:
- Showered standing up
- Walked hallway independently
- Walked up and down stairs at a reasonable pace (under supervision, but without help)
- Went to toilet independently
- Wound drain has been removed
- Been sitting instead of lying down for a while now
@daughterofrao (The inspiration for this is StayFocusd's "nuclear mode" which hard-blocks a configured list of sites as well as its own settings panel, and you can only get past it by typing out a long string with special characters that's shown on the screen)
@daughterofrao I would lock it behind something that takes a lot of effort to get past. Whether physical (eg. a deposit box in a city far away) or virtual (eg. a difficult math puzzle, or arduous string to type out by hand). Enough effort that it's not worth it impulsively.
Pet peeve: FOSS projects which depend on closed/proprietary/hosted systems for their development process because "we do not have the capacity to maintain all this stuff ourselves".
Ever heard of the concept of 'solidarity' and cross-project collaboration? Why are you assuming that you, as a sole project, must fix these issues on your own? Why haven't you sought collaboration with others who have the same problem, and distributed the workload?
@quincy Externalizing responsibility, basically
You don't need a blog, despite what a lot of Mastodon posts would have you believe.
It's okay to feel like you don't have something the world needs to read. It's okay to save your stories up for when you encounter people in real life. It's okay to write things down in a private diary.
What's not okay is recording important information in closed-off spaces like Discord or Facebook. If you have knowledge that could benefit others, please do get a blog.
@StroomAfwaarts Hoe maak je die?
health, meds
@StroomAfwaarts It will reduce over time, most likely, but I may still end up with quite a lot for the rest of my life
@mattgrayyes I believe this is (part of) the intention for GoToSocial as well, to serve as a general-purpose ActivityPub implementation, where clients can then deal with varying content
@robinsyl The problem is not you. They have fallen for the computer version of a psychic scam, basically.
“Amazon's AI crawler is making my git server unstable - Xe Iaso”
https://xeiaso.net/notes/2025/amazon-crawler/
Training data crawlers are abusing the open web.
AI, Psychology, quote-boost
Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
Sometimes horny on main (behind CW), very much into kink (bondage, freeuse, CNC, and other stuff), and believe it or not, very much a submissive bottom :p
Feel free to flirt, but if you want to actually meet up and/or do something with me, lewd or otherwise, please tell me explicitly or I won't realize :) I'm generally very open to that sort of thing!
Further boundaries: boosts are OK (including for lewd posts), DMs are open. But the devil doesn't need an advocate; I'm not interested in combative arguing in my mentions. I am however happy to explain things in-depth when asked non-combatively.
My spoons are limited, so I may not always have the energy to respond to messages.
Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.