Sven Slootweg (soft-deprecated) @joepie91@pixie.town
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In the process of moving to @joepie91. This account will stay active for the foreseeable future! But please also follow the other one.
Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
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- The devil doesn't need an advocate; no combative arguing in my mentions.
Sometimes horny on main (behind CW), very much into kink (bondage, freeuse, CNC, and other stuff), and believe it or not, very much a submissive bottom :p
My spoons are limited, so I may not always have the energy to respond to messages.
Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.
Joined Aug 2019
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Hey managers, please don't ask for "mystery meat" conversations with your directs -- i.e., no "hey do you have a minute?" DMs, or surprise calendar invites with vague titles. Always include the topic: "hey, can we talk about client X? I need some information about the meeting last week".
Otherwise, many (most?) of your directs will immediately assume the worst: "hey, do you have a minute ... so I can fire you?" "Hey, can we talk ... about what a failure you are?"
@kelluri@blobfox.coffee @welshpixie Wait, is this a pressure change thing??
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It seems like the majority of medically-recognised #Autistic traits are not autistic traits per se.
They are trauma responses common in autistic people.
I'm "more interested in things than people?" Maybe "things" don't turn hostile on me for unexplained reasons.
I'm dogmatically insistent that nobody can understand my mind but me? Maybe my entire childhood was spent resisting adults telling me they knew my mind better than I did.
This is also why "autistic traits" can seem contradictory. Both "talks about their interests all the time even in inappropriate settings" and "never talks about their interests" can be part of a diagnosis.
Because the latter is a trauma response to having the former shut down.
Is there an untraumatised autistic person?
I actually don't think so. So the map of what autism looks like to clinicians is shaped by our trauma.
And this probably compounds their impression that we're somehow defective, which in turn compounds the attitudes used to break us.
I just wanna be seen as a person.
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@joepie91 cleaning friend groups? (one friend rests, others clean their home)
@wolfram_roesler@mastodontech.de @Seirdy@pleroma.envs.net This is abuse apologia.
You are not telling anybody anything they don't already know, you're just trying to justify it.
Don't.
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@joepie91 so true. where the app idea to match for cleaning each others flats and become friends? 
@samgai I sometimes feel like that's fedi's answer to everything :p
(not that i necessarily disagree)
@deilann@tech.lgbt That just means more mess to clean :p
@deilann@tech.lgbt This hypothesis has unfortunately been disproven by *gestures at own living room*
There seems to be a really common thing with ND/ADHD folks where they find it easier to clean someone else's place or a common area, than to clean their own place
I feel like something should probably be done with this
@thufie (The sketchy thing with routing metadata in Signal in particular, is that there's no exhaustive architectural/technical documentation of sealed sender anywhere, and no clear answer to "how do you deal with the tradeoff between spam susceptibility and the ability to track routing information")
@thufie I'm more thinking of the inverse; eg. people who believe Signal's rather shoddy claims of "all metadata including recipients is encrypted" and then shit on Matrix/XMPP/etc. because "the recipient is unencrypted" even though that's necessary for routing
@thufie Addendum for the last point, from the other side of the coin: is there a legitimate technical reason for certain metadata not to be encrypted?
(I see entirely too many people buy into misleading claims of 'encrypted metadata' and then shitting on other systems that "don't encrypt their metadata" where it's technically unavoidable)
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Appliances that aren't "smart" is a right-to-repair issue.
One of the biggest reasons why I don't want any appliances to require an app is that it introduces another way to force you into obsolescence and prevent you from repairing your stuff forever.
I'd always rather have an older repairable thing than a new thing I can't fix.
@thufie Ah okay, different thing than I was thinking of then. Why are there so many
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My kid is in a club at school, and they meet 4x a week for 4 hours. So all the parents chip in and stock a "snack cabinet" (granola bars, juice boxes, etc.) because teenagers are hungry goblins.
I went to fill the cabinet and noticed a padlock on it, apparently someone had been "stealing."
I admit, this triggered me.
I spoke to the coach and told him that perhaps he should talk to the kids and find out if one of them is food insecure instead of locking up some two dollar box of granola bars.
The look on his face, I could tell it kinda clicked, he didn't even think of that, just assumed it was some punk kid breaking rules.
People who grow up with wealth don't even realize that it changes the way they think. Luckily, he's a cool guy, and he was horrified that one of 'his kids' might be hungry at home. Sometimes it just takes one comment to open up someone's eyes to their privilege.
As I tell my own children: If you see someone stealing food, no you didn't.
@thufie Is this the sketchy proprietary cryptoshit thing or something else?
@ariadne@treehouse.systems Ah okay, not the one I was thinking of then, thanks
@ariadne@treehouse.systems Hmm, which one is this?
- Future new account
- @joepie91@slightly.tech
- Matrix
- @joepie91:pixie.town
- Pronouns
- they/them, he/him, whatever, it's not like I have any idea either 🙃
In the process of moving to @joepie91. This account will stay active for the foreseeable future! But please also follow the other one.
Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
- No alt text (request) = no boost.
- Boosts OK for all boostable posts.
- DMs are open.
- Flirting welcome, but be explicit if you want something out of it!
- The devil doesn't need an advocate; no combative arguing in my mentions.
Sometimes horny on main (behind CW), very much into kink (bondage, freeuse, CNC, and other stuff), and believe it or not, very much a submissive bottom :p
My spoons are limited, so I may not always have the energy to respond to messages.
Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.
Joined Aug 2019
