Sven Slootweg @joepie91@pixie.town

@anthropy As a marginalized person you will get violent pushback regardless of how compassionate you are, frankly

@anthropy This simply isn't true, in my experience. Explaining with compassion *appears* to be more effective, that much is true, but there is a big difference between apparent effectiveness and true effectiveness.

The problem with systemic discrimination is that it is impossible to address on an individual scale, because - by definition - the discriminated party is at a power disadvantage, and they both have less energy to spend and need to use more of it to argue their case than someone who is in favour of the systemic discrimination.

"Explaining with compassion" essentially fits into this category; it is a very high-energy-demand approach that, at best, convinces a single person to act somewhat better (and rarely enough to matter). This can never work at scale.

Which leaves the option of fighting against it on a societal level. And *that* requires aggressive pushback, it requires the use of 'power amplifiers', to make the systemic discrimination socially unacceptable. And the single most effective way to do that is... confrontation.

It will *appear* less effective because it makes people dislike you on a personal level. But on a societal level, the message (and underlying social norms) absolutely stick a lot better than with the compassionate approach.

As for law, it absolutely is not neutral by any stretch of the imagination. It is defined and enforced by the dominant ideology, which usually is an oppressive one, because that is what centralized power attracts and optimizes for. It only *looks* neutral if you fall into the demographic which those laws were designed to serve.

@anthropy I think this is broadly true, but not universally. It's a good baseline when interacting with friends or even strangers that you are speaking to directly, but.

Sometimes someone needs to hear something point blank in a way that cannot be ignored or waved away. This applies especially when speaking to a broad, vague public but sometimes even when speaking to individuals.

Generally, "approach people with kindness" is a strategy that works if the point you are trying to make is relatively uncontroversial or you have a strong standing (eg. you are a man), but there's a whole set of points that people simply will not consider seriously unless presented harshly, and this doubly applies when you are (multiply) marginalized.

(I'm bringing this up mainly because it's very easy to overextend "approach people with kindness" into tone-policing, if that nuance is not considered.)

@marlies @smveerman Zou het stiekem gewoon hetzelfde systeem zijn achter de schermen, maar dan met twee verschillende bedrijfsnamen?

@smveerman @marlies Dat had ik volgens mij ook gedaan maar dat leek geen enkele invloed te hebben op waar de bestelling naartoe ging. Ik had een heel verwarde huisarts aan de lijn, waarom ik een recept van het ziekenhuis bij hen probeerde te bestellen...

@marlies @smveerman Eigenlijk de enige waar ik tevreden over ben is 'Mijn JBZ' van het ziekenhuis, die komt soms nog steeds een beetje amateuristisch over qua ontwerp maar alles *werkt* gewoon, en er is goed nagedacht over de indeling, het kan dus wel gewoon

@smveerman @marlies Mijn huisarts en apotheek gebruiken allebei Mijn Gezondheid (dus die van MedGemak) en als je dan bij 'recepten bestellen' kijkt dan krijg je 1 lijstje met medicatie en geen enkele indicatie van *bij wie* het dan besteld wordt, ook zo handig.

Dan zou je denken "dat zal toch altijd de apotheek zijn", maar nee dus...

@vacuumbeef I'd been needing the same thing for quite some time and recently solved it by setting up Bookstack on a VPS, and I'm quite happy with it. May be worth a shot if you're comfortable self-hosting something, I've found it to be basically maintenance-free.