Sven Slootweg @joepie91@pixie.town

@malcircuit That is going to depend on the exact circumstances, and is generally a process that requires the input of the victim. Whole books have been written about repairing harm, resolving conflicts, and (social) accountability.

A better question is, why *would* punitive measures repair harm and prevent reoccurrence? As basically all evidence is against this concept, and it often has the opposite outcome.

@malcircuit I'd respond to that with a philosophical counterquestion: why would the primary qualifier for something being "justice" be "experiencing pain or discomfort", rather than "repairing harm and preventing reoccurrence"?

Because that to me sounds more like revenge than like justice. Is the intention of justice to make things right and make society better, or is the intention to "get the last word in", so to say?

@amy When this happens to me, very often it seems to be a case of "the social convention is that you do not point this out to people and confront them with it, and you have broken that social convention".

Very often they are conventions I absolutely do not subscribe to for ethical reasons...

@mynameistillian There's always going to be a risk, no way around that, the best you can do is to mitigate those risks upfront as much as possible. Staying where you are isn't without risks either, after all! I guess the only question really is which risk is bigger to you.

I've sometimes regretted taking risks, but most of the time they've worked out well for me, especially when I did preparation work ahead of time.

@mynameistillian So, I don't think that's a fool's plan, to be honest! Sure, you should do some preparation work to make sure you don't burn through your money faster than necessary (eg. staying in hotels gets expensive fast), but I don't think there's any point in waiting for perfect circumstances either. All you really need is enough 'runway' to get yourself into a better space and figure out what to do next.

@mynameistillian (Are replies wanted?)

@kissane I recognize a lot of this from the way I write; often when I finally write an article, it's the result of discussing a topic with people for years, to a level of depth that approximates writing ad-hoc articles each time. It takes forever!

I've been experimenting a bit lately with reviewing and editing less before publishing an article, and I've found that it doesn't seem to matter much for how much people appreciate the end result, and how effective it is. At least for me, it seems that the slowness of writing has been mostly to satisfy my own standards rather than that of anyone else, and at least some part of the lengthy process has been a matter of diminishing returns.

@jonty@chaos.social It often feels like there's a sort of bell curve where the most conflict occurs in the massive communities (because it's impossible to maintain social cohesion) and the tiny communities (because every disagreement feels like a mortal threat to the community's continued existence) and there's just one fairly small range of 'community size' where things can actually be stable, big enough to weather some broken ties but not so big that ties start breaking due to scale alone

@freakazoid Most of my experience in terms of 'garbage' is Steam (which doesn't seem to have the most basic dependency management functionality...) but if Nexus Mods' site is any indication, then I don't expect their mod manager to be any better, no