Have any other transfems noticed their startle reflex increasing since starting HRT? I feel like I used to never startle from anything, but now I'll jump at something like the doorbell ringing. /gen
#AskTransgender
@eloy @noracodes (More generally, the perspective of a company is not going to be one of responsibility, like in your post, but one of entitlement or exploitation - which is why "supply chain" to them means "what do we get out of it", and not "what responsibilities do we have here")
@eloy @noracodes In commercial circles, "supply chain" is often taken to imply an obligation on the part of the supplier to continue providing services reliably, and I suspect that that's the rationale behind this post
about that "trans people are welcome and safe with you" post
@ThunderComplex@musicians.today I wouldn't go quite that far - I've also seen this getting boosted by people who I would trust to *actually* be welcoming. I think that it'll probably serve as a shield for some, but I think that in most cases it's simply being unaware of the actual needs of trans folks (and the context that makes such statements meaningless).
about that "trans people are welcome and safe with you" post
(Also, I can assure you that the trans folks around you are very carefully watching the way that people act towards them - you won't need to signpost that you're being supportive, it will be noticed in the same way as when you're not)
about that "trans people are welcome and safe with you" post
I've been seeing that picture going around again that tells you to "repost this if trans people are welcome and safe with you", so I guess it's time to bring this up again:
I understand the intention, but it's really not as helpful as you might think. Like most marginalized groups, trans folks often have to deal with being told that they are 'welcome' somewhere, only to discover that there are hidden conditions attached - don't act too queer, don't act too outspoken, don't be too weird, don't be too sexual, and so on.
The result is that "trans people are welcome with me" is a meaningless statement - we have no idea whether that is actually true, or whether you just *believe* that that is the case, but have never engaged with the subject enough to understand what that really entails.
Intention alone is just not sufficient to provide safety; you also need to do the work of actually understanding what is needed and providing those things.
So again, I understand the intention, but this doesn't really help. The best way to show trans folks that they are safe with you, and that you are *capable* of creating that safety, is to *act* as such, rather than just *saying* it.
Proactively speak out against abuse that trans people receive, extend an open offer of help in whatever way is needed to the trans folks in your social circles, and so on.
I can't speak for everyone of course, and it's possible that there are trans folks for whom such posts *are* helpful. But I don't think I've ever talked to any trans folks who felt that way, at least that I know of.
database and programming (language) opinions
@fogti Well, sort of; compartmentalized databases are very simple in principle, they're just incompatible with typical SQL-based designs
database and programming (language) opinions
(This implies it being compartmentalized or composable in some way, such that the library or function also does not need to care about trampling something else's data)
Trump
Truth Social is just an old version of Masto that they ripped off, right?
And there's been a bunch of serious bugs that have been patched since they started up, right?
And *now* millions of dollars are going into Trump's wallet at a crucial time for him because Truth Social just went public
Wouldn't it be terrible timing for Trump if someone weaponized some of those probably-unpatched bugs on Truth Social right now and its stock price crashed
It would sure be a shame if someone did that
Looking through Linkedin and all the bad managers I've had seem to be cast from the same mould:
- Into "AI", but gesture towards doomerim to look reasonable
- Believes "AI" coders will replace programmers
- Pretending they weren't into "blockchain" a few months ago
- Uses trendy PKM du jour (Aboard is replacing Notion among the MBA types)
- Uses passive voice to gloss over the mistakes they've made in the past
- Older ones talk about Web 2.0 as if it wasn't a bullshit marketing term at the time
Trying to gauge something, please boost this so that I can get a bigger sample size!
Think of some kind of activist cause - it doesn't really matter what it is about specifically, just whatever thing in society or politics bothers you, and you would want to see changed.
Are you currently actively involved in activism around it? And if not, but you had the certainty that other people felt the same way, and they'd want to work together with you, so you're not standing alone... would you be open to *getting* involved with it?
(Please answer honestly; there are no wrong answers here.)
But however fucked up the world gets it's very reassuring to remember we are fundamentally a species who will offer a sodden stranger a bed for the night and a hot meal in the right circumstances. And maybe we should be directing more of our efforts to ensuring more of us find ourselves in circumstances that allow us to act on this best part of our nature.
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And it all goes wrong when it becomes too abstract, when it's some impersonal number of refugees rather than one bedraggled young man, when we're taught we're all in competition with one another and any time we spend helping others is time we can't spend helping ourselves, when the other person looks or behaves too differently so we don't recognise them as someone in need.
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Does anyone have a link to a good explainer article/blog post about what happens when cotton fabric, that is sometimes very soft, get really hard and stiff after being washed and dried?
Context: I'm autistic and trying to learn about my clothes related sensory issues / challenges / comforts.
#Fabric #Cotton #SkinnyJeansIsAbleistic #ThisIsNotAboutDenim #SomeOfTheseHashtagsHaveHumorousIntent #ActuallyAutistic
And maybe the reason we get so outraged and angry when people don't treat us decently is that it conflicts with the sense we have deep down of how the world is supposed to work, that we evolved to be social primates who cooperate with each other.
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Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
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Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.