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A Conversation About Trans People Getting Old

Friend: You're amazing

Cait (she/her/elle)
Why is that? I'm just a trans girl who got old.

Friend: Because that rarely happens

Cait (she/her/elle)
Not true at all. There are plenty out there. But when we transitioned, the rule - like, if you break it you're out of the clinic entirely - was that you MUST be stealth. It was strongly recommended that you move cities, and cut ties with everyone you knew.

So we did what we had to. We hid from the world. We pretended to be cis women. Some of us married men, and adopted kids because we were infertile cis women. And never told them our past.

And they got old. But they're still stealth, only now they have a second life built up. They have spouses and kids and friends and jobs and everything. And if they come out, they fear losing it all, as they already did once. Believe me, having lost it all? I would never do it again, for anyone.

They're not "not there". They just can't afford to be out. Some few of us can, for various reasons. I have been for 20-odd years. But it's not been easy, and I pay for it. I can't resent my sisters who choose not to pay a second time.

So we exist. There are many of us. I know a few, a very few. And they're super careful about even talking to me, the green-haired widely-known activist trans woman. We talk on Signal only, and they use burner phones. I'm their only contact with trans community, because they're terrified.

We exist. We just can't all be out about it. So I try extra hard to be super out. To help make up for their necessary absence.

We do get old, dear. You will too. The present bullshit will pass, in time, and we will live openly and happily again. It has before, and it will again. That's why we fight against it, those of us who can. Because we know we can and will win, in the end. We have before.

Hold strong, my friend. We're not doomed.

Help @SnugglyBunne, a 24 years old musician and a closeted trans woman flee Argentina for a safer country as Argentina has become fascist and unsafe due to the current government. the socio-economic and political situation has also gotten unstable. She doesn't feel safe transitioning in Argentina due to a revival of transphobic campaign and harassment.

Goal met: 11% of 15000 dollars

Link:

https://ko-fi.com/snugglybun/

Tags: #GTFOmyState #MutualAid #MutualAidRequest #TransCrowdFund #TransMutualAid #crowdfunding #crowdfund #fundraiser #fundraising

Help Kathi, a trans woman living in Oklahoma to flee the state as it's becoming unsafe for her to stay there. She's reaching out for our assistance as her income barely covers her rent, food and other necessities, which has resulted in her living paycheck to paycheck and having little to no savings. She's battled both homelessness and cancer in her life, and has struggled to find a stable job due to her (recently diagnosed) autism.

Goal: 2000/6000 dollars

Link:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-kathi-find-safety-and-a-new-home

Tags: #GTFOmyState #MutualAid #TransMutualAid #TransCrowdFund #crowdfunding #crowdfund #fundraiser #fundraising #DisabilityCrowdFund

Help steph, a trans woman, & her girlfriend move to a safer, trans-inclusive, protective state - away from where they are currently (Ripon). Safety for trans people there has become increasingly questionable and uncertain and they would need as much help as possible from us as they find temporary jobs and plan the move. Steph has a youtube channel as well that I'll link below.

The donations will be used for: rent, tickets, transportation, HRT etc.

Goal: 10800/12000

GoFundMe:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-stephs-aka-tivs-journey-to-safety?attribution_id=sl%3Ab394d089-aa2d-4466-9633-ff1cfd40f26b

Youtube:

https://youtube.com/@teletraaniv?si=bFaboCuadL4BINBj

Tags: #GTFOmyState #crowdfunding #crowdfund #fundraiser #fundraising #MutualAid #TransCrowdFund