re: LB (on community health)
this is something i've been mulling over for a while now, but i think never actually posted. in short: community health is not just an individual responsibility, but also a community one.
there is an individual responsibility to communicate and seek treatment, like the people did in this example. let people you're cuddling with know that you have a weird rash or itch, doctors said it's probably just an allergy but just fyi. and then when someone else starts getting one (like person b and c here), they have an opportunity to connect the dots.
but there's also a community responsibility. to normalize talking about things, like this post, so we can learn from each other. to think about how infectious disease spreads in our community and about ways we can act.
we keep ourselves safe. we keep ourselves healthy.
(more posts to come but i need a break. it's the same with covid etc.)
PSA, Scabies and why it's not always that easy, ph
"You should just immediately know when you got scabies and make sure not to spread it!" You think that's easy? Let me tell you our little tale of woe!
It's February Person A notices some itching and a few spots on their hands. As there's been a few fedi posts about scabies, they panic and think it's scabies, so the next day when they're home they try to contact a Dr. Unfortunately, there's no general practitioner with a quick appointment
gendering your baby feels kind of like calling a skein of yarn a "sweater." like, yes, it might turn out to be a sweater, and it's probably gonna look like one at least for a while if you decide to knit it into one.
but ultimately, it could become anything, and even if you shape it into a sweater... it could all unravel someday.
ultimately, we don't control other people. we can observe and support them, or we can push our expectations on them. connect, or set them up to perform for you.
What's up with American food recipes being terrified of measuring stuff by weight? I mean even something like "a tablespoon of flour" can mean a whole range of amounts depending on the size of the spoon and whether you dose the flour flat on the spoon or if you create a mound..
And then there's stuff like measuring raw ginger by length which absolutely baffles me cuz like have you ever seen ginger root?? It's like the most irregular object at the grocery aisle which way am I even supposed to measure out an inch??
I do appreciate that the shop reused the box, though, and judging from the writings on the box (which didn't match my shipment) this was actually at least the *second* time that this box was reused!
We deden in oktober een Woo-verzoek en kregen dat na tussenkomst van de rechter na 7,5 maand (!) binnen. Dit proces kost ons niet alleen een overvraagde rechtbank, een dwangsom die we met z'n allen moeten betalen maar ook het verlies van vertrouwen in onze democratische rechtsstaat. Lees meer: https://www.bitsoffreedom.nl/2025/05/30/de-frustrerende-realiteit-rond-woo-verzoeken/
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Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
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Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.