Sven Slootweg @joepie91@pixie.town

I got myself an autistic therapist about a year and a half ago, and for the first time my therapy felt like it wasn't mostly a waste of my time. In that time, I have learned a few things that feel worth jotting down. These are personal to me, though others may find something in them, too.

- Getting an autistic therapist made all the difference. Finally, I can spend the hour discussing my issues, instead of explaining about autism. Not having to struggle with Double Empathy Problems or explain basic things saves so much time. And it's validating to have someone just get things.
- Therapists are not supposed to talk about themselves. But I asked my autistic therapist to use Relatable Stories in our sessions, because they are natural for us and I find them more soothing or inspiring than the usual NT-style platitudes. It's helped with our rapport and I'm really glad she does that now.
- Growing up autistic with parents who are narcissists can really suck. Most children leave home and get to escape the household abuse. But when we leave home, we're stuck in a world that typically treats autistic people much the same way narcissistic parents treat their kids, so there is no relief from that abuse for us.
- Dealing with CPTSD is never easy, but it's frankly impossible as long as the trauma continues. If you get stabbed and want the wound to heal, the first step is removing the knife. If you don't do that, nothing else will help. You have to remove the source of the trauma before trying to deal with it. This can be very difficult, especially when combined with the previous point about narcissistic parents.
- It seems to me that emotional co-regulation works differently for autistics than allistics, so if I spend all my time around allistics, I'm not going to benefit from co-regulation and will probably end up dysregulated. Just watching a youtube video of an autistic person talking for a few minutes can really help if I'm out of sorts.
- A lot of times when I thought I was being selfish, difficult, or too sensitive, I was just having a meltdown and couldn't control the involuntary reaction, and it's not helpful to blame myself for being a bad person because that happens to me sometimes when people treat me poorly. Even if everyone else blames me.
- Explaining stuff about autism to allistic people rarely helps ease communication, especially when you're already in a conflict. So maybe don't waste a lot of energy trying to make allistic people understand autism unless they actually want the education.

#ActuallyAutistic #autistic #psychotherapy

For people voting in the #nixos leadership election: a quick list of which candidates signed the community's open letter against military sponsorship, to assist in decision making.

https://gist.github.com/delroth/1ffb214ee95ad16da7311ca3d868d806

A problem I have is that there's hobbies I got into because they were affordable, then other people discovered them and they stopped being affordable. So what now, do I just give up? Move on to the next fun cheap hobby until more people spot it? Hard to say.

Laserdisc was a fun hobby for me as a broke grad school student. BMV still had shelves full of em for $3 a pop - most of my rare and interesting stuff came from stuff like that, rather than expensive online auction finds.

“Nice people made the best Nazis. My mom grew up next to them. They got along, refused to make waves, looked the other way when things got ugly and focused on happier things than “politics.” They were lovely people who turned their heads as their neighbors were dragged away. You know who weren’t nice people? Resisters.”

– Naomi Shulman

hashtag threat model

The correct answer to the question "do #audiobooks count as reading?" is not a simple yes or no. It's "yes, now please stop gatekeeping".

Edit: adoptiert!

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Hat jemand basteltechnisch Verwendung für eine defekte Anker Power Core Essential 20.000 mAh Powerbank?

Sie scheint nicht mehr zu laden, etwas daran aufzuladen ging aber, daher denke ich, dass nur ein Kabel an den Anschlüssen irgendwo ne Macke hat? Der Akku ist auch nicht aufgebläht.

Kann man damit durch ausschlachten was anfangen? Ich fand's schade, die einfach wegzuhauen, falls sie nur nen reparierbaren Defekt hat.

Falls wer möchte, sagt Bescheid.

Goddamnit

this is a De Lijn appreciation post

✅ good tracking, with app that actually works
✅ nicely designed bus stop flags
✅ cool bluetooth feature to find the bus you're on
✅ contactless payment, with >1 person per card even
✅ timetable sensibly connects to mainline trains

I think more applications should have the search menu that blender has. It's so good. If you can't remember where something is in the menu tree you just hit f3 (or space... depends on your bindings) and then type what you want to do. It's amazing.