Confidence is not "I know what I'm doing."
Confidence is "I know how to find that out" and "I know how to learn new things" and most importantly "I know when I don't know what I'm doing, so I stop and find someone who does"
Obnoxious blowhards rely on people not understanding this distinction. And they amplify it by framing actual confidence as weakness.
This may be a useful thing to talk about with certain people in your life who are being fooled by fascists.
I suspect that a lot of white people in the fedi think if there were as much racism as Black folks are saying then they would see more of it. However, they're misunderstanding the nature of the racism. It's not casual, it's _targeted_. The racists go out of their way to find Black people and harass them.
Since it's targeted, people who aren't the targets see only a very small fraction of it.
Black folks aren't making shit up. Listen to them.
#racism
@joepie91 It's really eye-opening to talk to anyone who works in marketing. They're like lawyers, seeing the world entirely in terms of messaging, with no actual values of their own. This is why I teach my kid that all marketing is lying, without exception.
A separate but related point: the shittier companies are allowed to be, the more susceptible people will be to scams.
Because how do you expect people to distinguish between the scams that are state-sanctioned, and the ones that are not?
Things I love about biking as part of my commute:
Seeing other people not driving to work. The streets are covered in bikes and scooters. The bike trail has tons of folks walking to work and to the metro stations
Getting some exercise. It feels good to get moving first thing in the morning, and it's a great way to destress after work
It's just so much fun. I love biking
I feel like I'm part of my community. There are a couple of people working where I bike past that I smile at and they smile back. Seeing people playing in the park. Last week I bought lemonade from a kid. It's wonderful.
Also, I want to emphasize that shady shit in the marketing industry is so widespread that "the shadier side" doesn't refer to just a few companies; it refers to the shadier side that almost *every single* company in the marketing space has, ethical companies are vanishingly rare and the whole industry is Like This
I've been fascinated for a long time by how scams work, and perhaps the most revealing observation I've made is that the manipulation and deception involved is virtually *identical* to what the shadier side of the marketing industry (eg. microtransactions) does legally, the only difference is whether on paper you've gotten something for your money
If you're a white person and want to be an ally, you have other options than victim blaming.
Make sure your instance blocks racist abusers. Ask what measures they're taking to ensure the safety of BIPoC folk on your instance. Ask the developers of your instance's software what tools they're implementing to help combat racism. Ask them what demographic of people they're listening to when developing those tools (I can pretty much guarantee hardly any are listening to Black folk).
USpol, KOSA, Harris
see parent post: https://scholar.social/@so_treu/112877843513910811
abortion access
The Iowa abortion ban has gone into effect, and Iowans are going to Illinois for abortions. If you can donate to the Iowa Abortion Access Fund, that would be great:
Hi everyone, I'm looking to relocate to another instance, mine is closing in the future!
Please boost
I'm souls, we have been very happy on plural.cafe but we sadly have to migrate.
I'm looking for an instance with strong moderation / blocklists & closed signups, not a large instance and mods / admins that are approachable!
We like computers, do queer community work IRL and are from the EU! If you need any more info please do ask. I'm not really sure how all of this works :]
Thank you so much 🙇
Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
Sometimes horny on main (behind CW), very much into kink (bondage, freeuse, CNC, and other stuff), and believe it or not, very much a submissive bottom :p
Feel free to flirt, but if you want to actually meet up and/or do something with me, lewd or otherwise, please tell me explicitly or I won't realize :) I'm generally very open to that sort of thing!
Further boundaries: boosts are OK (including for lewd posts), DMs are open. But the devil doesn't need an advocate; I'm not interested in combative arguing in my mentions. I am however happy to explain things in-depth when asked non-combatively.
My spoons are limited, so I may not always have the energy to respond to messages.
Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.