Sven Slootweg @joepie91@pixie.town

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Non-Binary_People%27s_Day

> The day was first celebrated in 2012, started by Katje van Loon. The date was chosen for being precisely midway between International Men's Day and International Women's Day.

I laughed

Happy NB people's day!

Hey please remember to CW your USPOL comments. Thanks!

I think one of the confusing things about the so-called "24-hour news cycle" is that things can be extremely important while also having zero effect on what the next right thing is to do.

Finally made my first demo with Slipstream!

@Violet 's monitor got damaged on the way to the Black Valley @demoparty_no party, so in a life-giving-you-lemons exercise, I decided to make it into a one-of-a-kind custom demo platform using the remaining pixels. One soundtrack from @vurpo later and we were in business...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_MHTeTXaQMc

lol

(official Xiph.org Opus FAQ)

These mental models can't really be avoided.

I don't have a magic solution other than to just be aware of the toll of that kind of self-criticism and self-regulation.

It can take on a life of its own. It can persist even after you get away from the person or people who it was created to protect you from.

To anticipate what an abuser might do next you have a little copy of the abuser running in your mind like a virtual machine. You start viewing all of your actions through the lens of how that abuser might react.

And since you need to anticipate what they will do, you keep it on overdrive... there is a danger that the warped perceptions and prejudices that enable their abuse start to become your own.

You start taking on some of the work of "keeping you in your place" yourself.

It's pretty common (and in some ways unavoidable) to have a mental model of your abuser in your mind. You practice anticipating what the abuser will think of you, how they will see you, so you can anticipate what they might do next. This is why victims often have a granular understanding of the motivations, passions & concerns of the people who harm them, while those doing the harm often know nearly nothing about the people they attack.

This model is useful but it's also dangerous.

toot stolen to add CW

in general i try not to dunk but i can't believe that this is something that a mozilla tech lead actually wrote down about the nearly silent introduction of an aggregated advertising system into a browser that is plastered wall to wall in its promotional materials as being dedicated solely to privacy

I think that everyone who cares about the health of the web should probably read some of the posts around here, if it is representative of the attitudes of the mozilla development team at all https://mastodon.social/@Schouten_B/112784434152717689

personally I think the MONA thing is hilarious, especially in the context of the Discourse.

for non-Australians, the Museum of Old and New Art (MONA) in Tasmania had an area called the Ladies Lounge, where men were not allowed. They hung several fake Picassos, an antique mink rug that was actually polyester, and a bunch of fake tribal spears. The idea was that it was a criticism of the general idea of the patriarchy where men typically have a lot more opportunities for... pick a thing. Even when women were allowed in, what was actually inside were cheap replicas devoid of any amount of authenticity. It's ripping on token inclusion.

In an eye-watering display of self-awareness deficiency, a man then sued MONA for not being allowed in, claiming discrimination due to being a man. He claimed that as he had paid admission to the whole of MONA but was not permitted to this specific exhibit due to his gender, he was being discriminated against.

The Tasmanian Civil Tribunal agreed, and MONA was directed to admit men into a women's-only area. The irony is thick enough that you could cut it with a knife.

MONA, in response, dismantled the exhibit except for the fake Picassos. All the bathrooms at MONA are single-occupancy all-gender, but it turns out having a women's bathroom from which men are excluded *isn't* discriminatory, so they converted one into a women's bathroom and hung the fake Picassos in there, an exhibit of itself.

The art exhibit was basically a criticism of "turns out the only safe space for women away from men is a bathroom, and people will still claim that you're getting special rights because you get to see something nobody else can. Even if what you're seeing is a cheap replica, someone somewhere will claim that you have it good because you're getting something they don't."

Picasso's estate, however, took a rather dim view of unauthorised replicas being displayed in an art gallery in Tasmania, even though it was literally years between putting up the artwork and someone noticing. They've since been taken down with no further action.

MONA has declared that the Ladies Lounge will return as something where S26 of the Sex Discrimination Act doesn't apply, such as a church or boutique glamping experience.

They've also expressly stated that the Ladies Lounge includes ALL women, not just cis ones.

I love everything about this story. Fucking classic stuff coming out of the art world.

If you really wanted to "democratize creativity" you'd argue for every human being to have paid time off to find, follow and develop their creativity, their perspective and their voice.

Creativity is the work that allows people to bring forth their own selves regardless of who pays for it. It's part of the essence of being human.

We know that many people just don't get the resources, the freedom, the time to explore that part of being human. And we're all poorer for it.

A phrase I use often - you've probably seen me use it before - is "the characteristic reductiveness of bigotry".

When I use it, it means trans people are seen as only trans, and not as anything else.

And it's why JK Rowling can get away with attacking rape survivors, and it's why Wes Streeting can get away with attacking kids. The 'trans' qualifier is used to obscure membership of those other cohorts, as a justification for that heinous, evil cruelty.

Research by UK LGBT+ young people's charity Just Like Us showed that people who know a trans person are nearly twice as likely to support trans-inclusive policies, while, conversely, nearly three quarters of those who don't support trans-inclusive policies don't know anyone trans: https://www.justlikeus.org/blog/2023/03/31/trans-day-of-visibility-ally-lesbian/

If you know a trans person, you cannot reduce them to being 'only' trans. You have no choice but to see them as a person. It is unsurprising that cruelty dissipates in the face of that.

Early on in my journey I decided that convincing people that "trans women are women" or that "trans men are men" was secondary to convincing them that "trans people are people," and that, years later, depressingly remains true.

mistake: letting @puckipedia and us near a thermal printer

In a classic for our local community Facebook group folks were getting all concerned about youths in hoodies stealing bags of clothes that folks had put out for charity collection. Turns out they were the charity collectors though.