why oppressed folks seem so angry
extracting this bit from another unrelated post:
like, one of the reason why people (read: oppressed folks) seem to fight so strongly and forcefully for things is because like. we are so used to being completely ignored. it's tiring to go through the same stages of speaking nice at first, then progressively less nice until you find the right level of firmness that's required to get someone to actually listen to you.
I know because I've done this. back when I was at university, I went to physically sit down with loads of different people to ensure that they were doing things correctly, with trans folks in mind, ensuring that they were actually using people's preferred names instead of their legal names in the university systems. it was fucking exhausting, because I would do this, and then myself and others would be invited to meetings where people show up with big slides and powerpoints about these cool new ideas they have that showed they didn't even fucking listen to us. at one point, they claimed that they needed to add a profanity filter before they could let anyone change their preferred name in the system, because apparently, letting people naturally face the consequences of naming themselves "fucknut johnson" was worse than trans people being treated respectfully
so, if you're at this point and just fucking tired of dealing with the bullshit and want to get your point across, it feels like you approach every situation with full body armour and a battleaxe to just talk things out, and it sets people off. like, woah, calm down, why are you so uptight about this?
because I know otherwise you won't fucking listen to me. and sure, maybe I'm being too strong for you specifically, but I don't know that until I try, and quite frankly, I'm done fiddling with people's attention spans until they listen and will instead just slam my fists on the desk in front of them immediately. gets their attention.
I don't like showing up to situations like this, but at a certain point I have to, because I have tried the nice option and it has failed me every single time. so, if you don't like it, consider how many times the nice option has worked for you and people like you, and think about that instead
NixOS, governance
If you care about the future of #NixOS, its governance, and its policies, right about now would be a good moment to get involved.
Some of the issues currently on the table:
- NixCon sponsorship by an arms dealer (Anduril)
- Moderation issues in the community, safety threats to marginalized folks
- What acceptable forms of participation are for the formal RFCs
A lot of things feel like they are coming to a head right about now, with the community growing rapidly, and I suspect that the decisions made are going to have long-term effects.
So if you've been waiting for a moment to get involved, that moment is probably now.
CW-boost: harry potter
My method for creating fictional world maps:
1) go for a walk after rain
2) take photos of drying spots on the sidewalk
3) draw over them ✨
#worldbuilding #worldbuildingart #cartography #fictionalmaps
NixOS moderation
Meanwhile, in the #NixOS moderation debacle: jonringer, one of the dudes who has been harassing marginalized folks for years, posts a screen-ful screed that boils down to "our behaviour should be free of consequences, that's the only way to be neutral, and also you should ban everyone who told us 'no'".
Except in flowery 'respectable white dude' language so that it reads like a completely unremarkable report you might need to read through for work, and I am not confident that moderators will see through this.
This person works at Anduril, by the way; the arms dealer.
NixOS moderation
This is *after* they have already been told to "accept it and move on", which they have ignored on multiple occasions to keep pushing.
I would hope that the moderators eventually realize that the demands from these people will never stop, that the 'trust' they complain about will never increase, up until the policy is "no moderation whatsoever". So far, this realization does not seem to have landed yet.
Over 1,300,000 civilians and military died in the Vietnam War. Politically it was the 60,000+ young, Americans who died that forced a shift in the way the US conducted warmaking.
The US public wouldn't tolerate such death tolls, at least not from drafts. The deaths of foreign civilians didn't make a similar impression. (But should have.)
The protests and anger over the draft and Vietnam War might have seemed futile at the time. But, it did force a change. Those protests mattered.
DePol, negative, abuse (sexual & medical), violence, trauma, rightoids
Germany is accelerating in its shift to the right and I’m not seeing any sufficient resistance. Partially this can be attributed to even the try of doing so being heavily prosecutable. Yet still there’s a difference between not wanting to be subject to state violence and complying with a shot societies rules. There’s ways you can fuck around and ffs I’m not seeing it.
I’m seeing how shit that was implemented five to ten years ago being enshittified to death.
I’ve recently reconnected with a few lost friends and the first things I get to know of about the mean time are:
non prosecuted sexual abuse in numbers that are actually scary and I can count myself in the statistic
ridiculous medical & drug abuse, including the worst way to learn that oxycodone is actually available
I want to look away and run, but once again I can’t - I’ll not refuse to at least try no matter how much it’ll be worth.
NixOS moderation
This is *after* they have already been told to "accept it and move on", which they have ignored on multiple occasions to keep pushing.
I would hope that the moderators eventually realize that the demands from these people will never stop, that the 'trust' they complain about will never increase, up until the policy is "no moderation whatsoever". So far, this realization does not seem to have landed yet.
NixOS moderation
Meanwhile, in the #NixOS moderation debacle: jonringer, one of the dudes who has been harassing marginalized folks for years, posts a screen-ful screed that boils down to "our behaviour should be free of consequences, that's the only way to be neutral, and also you should ban everyone who told us 'no'".
Except in flowery 'respectable white dude' language so that it reads like a completely unremarkable report you might need to read through for work, and I am not confident that moderators will see through this.
This person works at Anduril, by the way; the arms dealer.
#OpenCore means "we won't accept the contribution you worked hard to implement on your own dime and time because we need to keep it a proprietary feature in the Enterprise Edition".
#FreeSoftware #OpenSource #FOSS #OSS #SoftwareFreedom #Community #COSS
https://github.com/hoppscotch/hoppscotch/pull/3266#issuecomment-1984106576
GENUINE Tip for coloring / drawing with young children (like 6 and under) Source: I worked in a Daycare, got this tip, ignored it, and dug my own grave because I hadn't listened. (I solved it to the best of my ability but istg I still feel bad about this to this day)
Okay. We all know children are not miniature adults.
Like they do NOT have as good of coordination as an adult, (and in a lot of cases, yes that is worse if you are autistic)
But a lot of kids LOVE drawing and coloring, especially if grownups will participate while they do that.
Here is the thing:
if you are drawing (or coloring) next to a young child, use your non-dominant hand to draw and color.
Because otherwise, you end up with semi-decent (for someone without art skills) lines and curves that child CANNOT make, and they get discouraged.
Like I think a child expects you to be a LITTLE better, but not LEAGUES better.
I made a little guy feel bad about himself because I was Better at drawing than him. He didn't want to draw anymore. Just wanted me to draw. because there was no point.
What I told him, was that I loved his drawings, he WOULD improve, and then we drew a monster together (basically, I would draw a body part and then he'd draw one, and I tried to make it as silly as possible). After that I always made sure to use my left hand.
It is okay to not be the best at something, but a lot of children aren't okay with that, partially because we as a society are not okay with that.
I mean this is a message I struggled with my whole life (and to this day). A lot of us weren't taught that it's okay to suck at doing something, and that you'll improve if you keep at it. But this sort of thing starts young. So use your other hand
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Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.