asking for help/advice, abuse,
I'm in the process of recovering my belongings after being thrown out of/forced to flee my home. Does anyone here know how I would go about getting my stuff back from my abusive parents? They're forced to give it to me legally speaking right? But even if they gave it to me, I have no clue what to do from there on, since I don't have a driving license either. I'm kinda lost and thinking about this makes my head hurt. Please tell me what to do if you have experience with these kinds of situations.
For legal stuff: I'm an adult and live in Germany.
People who tend towards worry need to have spaces where they can play. They need to be insulated from consequences, either by giving someone else responsibility, or by working on toy projects with no consequences.
Conversely, those who are playful even when seriousness is called for, need to be put in situations where they are accountable for repairing unexpected harms.
Everyone deserves both the freedom of play and the meaning that comes from doing impactful, consequence-rich work.
Who plays and who worries often falls along lines of privilege. The boss tends to play where the subordinate tends to worry. The man tends to play where the woman tends to worry. The white person tends to play where the person of color tends to worry.
Privilege insulates you from consequences and allows you to play. A lack of privilege makes you hyper-aware of consequences and forces you to worry.
Our culture tends to lionize the people who take risks and get shit done. But risk-takers cannot succeed without the labor of all those who worry over and absorb the consequences of those risks.
Behind every successful player is a long line of burned out worriers who've been told they're not succeeding because they're not being brave enough, not taking enough risks.
We need to create communities where Player and Worrier are roles that people take on, consciously and temporarily.
@schratze I'm tryna do that very thing on my site:
https://www.improbableisland.com/hobbysites.php
And aye, it is possible to satisfy all the requirements for advertising that results in a net good for all involved, BUT, not in a way that makes the bloke organizing the adverts much money. Which is fine, maybe advertising is actually *better* when it *doesn't* make money!
(And the same for other demographic axes, but so far "dude" vs. "not dude" anecdotally seems to be the strongest correlation)
Proposal: stop saying stuff like "we're destroying the planet" and change it to "they're destroying the planet", to pivot away from self blame when most of us don't have the power to change things and definitely would if we could, and towards laying the blame squarely on the elites propping up the fossil fuel industry so we can focus our collective anger on those actually responsible
climate protests in NL, police, amusing
Currently being very amused by the NL cops whining on Twitter about having to put so much effort into arresting climate activists... and being told by both climate activists *and* various right-wing groups like covid deniers that they should stop complaining because they've created this situation for themselves
Eindstand: 443 mensen aangehouden en allemaal weer vrij. Tot morgen 12:00 A12 #StopFossieleSubsidies
blocklists (important clarification)
To clarify, since I cannot edit my original post: with "blocklist" I'm *not* referring to the defederation lists of individual instances! These are often private for good reasons.
Rather, I'm talking about the organized/collective blocklists, the ones that are meant to be used by third parties as recommendations for what to block preventatively.
CW-boost: climate protests, police
blocklists, receipts, fedi admin meta
Some reasons why blocklists *should* come with receipts:
1. So that blocks can be verified (you've probably already heard this one)
2. Resultingly, so that more people can actually *use* the blocklist without concerns about legitimacy
3. So that people can keep track of whether the issue has been resolved later
4. So that people can understand what the problematic behaviour was, and recognize it when it moves to another instance
5. So that people can see who were involved, in case those *perpetrators* move to another instance (a couple of serial account creators come to mind here)
Even if you don't personally care about verifying blocks, there are still many other reasons to keep careful track of blocking reasons.
For instance, I've seen entirely too many cases of people warning against Eris, the listener not seeing the problem and ignoring the warning, and then only finally understanding once being shown some of their posts. That only works if you keep receipts.
(That doesn't mean that there aren't people who will ignore the problem regardless of receipts; but those are not the people who will ever take it seriously anyway, they're not the target demographic here.)
(Why this is notable: it's much more common for companies to talk about handing stuff in for recycling, but then outsource the actual recycling part to some unknown third party, where it often just doesn't happen)
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Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.