Mankeeping: Women's emotional labor in heterosexual relationships. Being their partner’s sole support. Managing his stress. Interpreting his moods. Holding his hand through feelings he won’t share with anyone else. Unpaid, unacknowledged, unreciprocated. https://www.vice.com/en/article/mankeeping-is-why-women-are-done-with-dating/
They're putting blue food coloring in everything.
A short story
https://blog.foxtrotluna.social/theyre-putting-blue-food-coloring-in-everything/
@imp3tuz I wrote a long essay about it at https://lenses.alxd.org/ - the story itself is from Sierra Leone, but I work with a lot of people from the Global South :)
In case you aren't aware- a decent junk of #zimbabwe is verrrrry #solarpunk
I love it here ahahaha (ツ)🏴☠️🇿🇼🌄
The fact that YouTube is now defaulting to AI-dubbed audio and automatic translation for titles and descriptions is so freaking hostile to basically anyone using the platform outside of English-speaking countries.
Fuck AmericaCorp™ for thinking any of us (aka, the rest of the world) actually wants this.
Noodoproep: een autistische student die ik de afgelopen jaren extra heb begeleid wil heel graag doorstuderen in #Amsterdam, maar kan op geen enkele manier een kamer vinden.
De #WoonCrisis verziekt veel levens, maar als je niet voldoet aan de normen van de neuro-meerderheid worden de vele drempels al gauw onoverkomelijke barrières.
Is er toevallig hier op Mastodon iemand die iemand kent die iemand kent die iemand kent?
Rolling the ladder up behind us
Project update! Our living room is multi-use, so we needed an easier way to move the table around. And now it has wheels!
This was somewhat nontrivial - originally the table only had two thin rectangular 'feet' as part of the sideboard's shape, not wide enough to mount wheels too. So I also had to make little feet, screwed to the underside, that can hold the wheel mounts.
The color match isn't *perfect*, but it's pretty good! The feet started as bits of plywood; I glued two layers of it together per foot, sanded the entire stack of 4 feet down as a single block, then manually sanded nice smooth edges all around. Then a few (rapid) coats of wood stain, and finally a coat of varnish.
I also accidentally discovered a new technique in the process; the only varnish I have is glossy, but the table's varnish is matte. Turns out that by repeatedly alternately a) lightly and carefully sanding and b) applying some highly diluted varnish (ie. the water from my brush cleaning pot...), you can turn it into a matte finish!
(Pictures of the wheels installed on the table in next toot)
UK politics, assisted dying
It seems like many of the people supporting the Assisted Dying Bill have not really understood why many disabled people are against it.
It isn't the fact that there is a choice, it's how that choice plays out in a society that cuts welfare to disabled people, cuts supporting disabled people to live our lives, adds do not resuscitate orders to disabled people's medical files without our consent. Safeguards simply aren't enough to protect us.
"Pas op voor mijn scherpe randjes." Zo lees je in veel van mijn social media bio's. Wat is het verhaal hierachter?
Voor het personeelsblad de Basis van @minbzk mocht ik er een gastcolumn over schrijven.
Via een sympathisant kregen we een lijstje met sketchy bands doorgestuurd. Een lijst van meerdere metal bands. Met een ranking van safe, mild sketch, moderate sketch, major sketch en nazi.
Naast de usual suspects, ook wat bekende bands en voor ons wat onbekende bands. Het zijn voornamelijk bands die in de death of black metal genre vallen.
De Metal Archives is ook altijd een goede om te controleren of metal bands fout zijn.
Een simpele manier om te kijken of een band fout is:
Logo(s) op de albumhoes/cover, overduidelijke rechtse symboliek
De naam van de band, termen zoals, Aryan, random Duitse woorden
Achtergrondplaatje, Duitse soldaten of Germanen
De naam van de liedjes, termen zoals weerwolven of dogwhistles
https://www.hellseatic.de/wp-content/uploads/Sketchy-Metal-Bands.pdf
Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
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Sometimes horny on main (behind CW), very much into kink (bondage, freeuse, CNC, and other stuff), and believe it or not, very much a submissive bottom :p
My spoons are limited, so I may not always have the energy to respond to messages.
Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.