Sven Slootweg @joepie91@pixie.town

Imagine calling yourself The Indie Game Awards and not looking outside of Steam at all

Reminded like every xmas about how absolutely and intentionally wasteful gift boxes and baskets are.

This year, N received a gift basket big enough to be a bed for a medium-sized dog. The basket itself is completely filled with padding that creates a flat surface across the top of the (30cm? high) basket's rim, where the actual contents (candy and snacks) are spread out in a thin layer.

This is a particularly egregious example, but they're all like this - the difference between the "simple" and "fancy" ones isn't the quantity nor quality of the contents, but the ostentatiousness of the packaging.

A while back, we got a box of chocolates for the teachers at K's preschool. It turned out to be maybe 20 pieces of chocolate, in a huge box with cardboard inserts, a plastic tray, and tissue paper - it would have been significantly better on every axis to have gotten them a bag of assorted halloween candy from the grocery store, but it wouldn't have felt as "nice" because we've all been conditioned to appreciate this kind of presentation.

Squatters tip: as winter goes on, taking note of the amount of snow piled up on the walk is a great way to identify hot abandoned properties in your area

I am becoming unreasonably annoyed by the idea of contextless "harmful content". Or indeed just contextless "harm". Who is harmed? By what, exactly? Deployed by whom?

Sonic and Knuckles (1994)

Christmas Nerd Snipe:

Where can you stand and be seen by the largest number of people, based on population density and elevation?

Rules:
1) You must be standing on something that exists (cranes are fine)
2) The thing you are standing on must be physically in contact with and supported by earth
3) The observers are allowed telescopes

imagine that a loved one asks you to pull a lever that will give you an electroshock. you want them to be happy and you can take a bit of pain, so you decide to do it. alas, this type of electroshock can also do permanent nerve damage, and just that happens. your lover knew of this risk and didn't tell you. we can all agree that this person acted badly, right? they should have told you.

now situation B, imagine that your lover asks you to pull a lever that will give _them_ an electroshock. you pull the lever and they get permanent nerve damage. you didn't know that this was a risk, but your lover did, and decided not to tell you. it's their own body, after all, and they were looking forward to this, they wanted to run the risk. if they told you maybe you'd chicken out. and now every time you look at their hands trembling, you remember you pulled the lever.

how would you feel about this situation?

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which is to say, sadists have boundaries too. at any given moment, we have limits on how much pain we're willing to dish and how much risk we're willing to put your body under, even if you are confident that you can take more. these boundaries vary with the person and the occasion, like any other.

it would be very bad for me to propose, say, asphyxiation play to someone, without making sure they know that there's no safe way to do asphyxiation play; valid consent has to be informed. by the same token, please do not hide any previously existing injuries, health conditions, allergies etc. before a session, or any suspicious sensations you feel during it. I am aware (every domme is aware) that during a session your ability to think clearly or use words is reduced, sometimes to smithereens. this isn't what I'm talking about, I'm not expecting you to monitor your own body perfectly at all times. but like, don't hide information on purpose because you want a scene to keep going. it's your body, yes, and you can submit it to as much risk as you want, yes, but when the risk in question is _me_ you need my consent too. "Risk-aware consensual kink" means both sides are aware of the risks to both sides.

I do empathise that it's frustrating to get dénouement when you were eager for escalation, when it's so rare to have time to date in this economy etc.; but this type of edging is how we build trust. both of us will have to demonstrate the ability to exercise restraint, multiple times, before we can really truly trust one another to do the hardcore stuff. when we reach the point where I can go all out, I can guarantee you'll be glad we put in the work

The fediverse remains the odd sort of place where I get fact checked news from poets, medical science from illustrators, and networking advice from anthropomorphic animals. <3

I was really touched by this post about my little Christmas toy from a few years ago last year - and now the update 😀

This game and its predecessor are free to play alone or with a friend here:

https://drake-blue.itch.io/christmas-kitten-chaos

and

https://drake-blue.itch.io/demystifying-the-christmas-tree

#pico8 #xmasgame #christmasgame

i was kinda turned off of them at first because the term "airfryer" is a bit of a marketing gimmick, and then ones i'd seen seemed too small to be useful for me, but now that i have one i pretty much use it all the time when i don't have the energy to cook, don't wanna create a bunch of dishes, or just want some crispy taters

you know what, shoutout to airfryers. having a mini-convection oven with an oversized fan, where everything that gets dirty can be cleaned in the dishwasher is *super convenient*