Sven Slootweg @joepie91@pixie.town

I am becoming unreasonably annoyed by the idea of contextless "harmful content". Or indeed just contextless "harm". Who is harmed? By what, exactly? Deployed by whom?

Sonic and Knuckles (1994)

imagine that a loved one asks you to pull a lever that will give you an electroshock. you want them to be happy and you can take a bit of pain, so you decide to do it. alas, this type of electroshock can also do permanent nerve damage, and just that happens. your lover knew of this risk and didn't tell you. we can all agree that this person acted badly, right? they should have told you.

now situation B, imagine that your lover asks you to pull a lever that will give _them_ an electroshock. you pull the lever and they get permanent nerve damage. you didn't know that this was a risk, but your lover did, and decided not to tell you. it's their own body, after all, and they were looking forward to this, they wanted to run the risk. if they told you maybe you'd chicken out. and now every time you look at their hands trembling, you remember you pulled the lever.

how would you feel about this situation?

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which is to say, sadists have boundaries too. at any given moment, we have limits on how much pain we're willing to dish and how much risk we're willing to put your body under, even if you are confident that you can take more. these boundaries vary with the person and the occasion, like any other.

it would be very bad for me to propose, say, asphyxiation play to someone, without making sure they know that there's no safe way to do asphyxiation play; valid consent has to be informed. by the same token, please do not hide any previously existing injuries, health conditions, allergies etc. before a session, or any suspicious sensations you feel during it. I am aware (every domme is aware) that during a session your ability to think clearly or use words is reduced, sometimes to smithereens. this isn't what I'm talking about, I'm not expecting you to monitor your own body perfectly at all times. but like, don't hide information on purpose because you want a scene to keep going. it's your body, yes, and you can submit it to as much risk as you want, yes, but when the risk in question is _me_ you need my consent too. "Risk-aware consensual kink" means both sides are aware of the risks to both sides.

I do empathise that it's frustrating to get dénouement when you were eager for escalation, when it's so rare to have time to date in this economy etc.; but this type of edging is how we build trust. both of us will have to demonstrate the ability to exercise restraint, multiple times, before we can really truly trust one another to do the hardcore stuff. when we reach the point where I can go all out, I can guarantee you'll be glad we put in the work

The fediverse remains the odd sort of place where I get fact checked news from poets, medical science from illustrators, and networking advice from anthropomorphic animals. <3

I was really touched by this post about my little Christmas toy from a few years ago last year - and now the update 😀

This game and its predecessor are free to play alone or with a friend here:

https://drake-blue.itch.io/christmas-kitten-chaos

and

https://drake-blue.itch.io/demystifying-the-christmas-tree

#pico8 #xmasgame #christmasgame

i was kinda turned off of them at first because the term "airfryer" is a bit of a marketing gimmick, and then ones i'd seen seemed too small to be useful for me, but now that i have one i pretty much use it all the time when i don't have the energy to cook, don't wanna create a bunch of dishes, or just want some crispy taters

you know what, shoutout to airfryers. having a mini-convection oven with an oversized fan, where everything that gets dirty can be cleaned in the dishwasher is *super convenient*

Oh hell - someone summarized what I have been feeling in recent years about computing but hadn’t been able to fully link together. God damn.

https://www.wheresyoured.at/never-forgive-them/

End tipping now.

Things should have A Price which includes a good wage for everyone involved.

Tipping makes wages precarious and uncertain. It integrates begging into a job,. It creates hidden fees for consumers. It is shit for everyone.

@joepie91 I had a thought that maybe it's the strategy, everyone talks about a GitHub feature that might be tempting to some. But that looks like a no.

If you read one news related thing today please read this powerful one from @girlonthenet

Not that everyone doesn't deserve justice, but few are more deserving of justice than Gisèle Pelicot.

Also can I just say, it's fucking good to see the full list of these rapists? Every major news article I've seen of this story has been "Dominique Pelicot and 50 other men" some of them will probably outlive their prison sentence unfortunately. Time should not be able to wash this shame from these men.

www.girlonthenet.com/blog/dominique-pelicots-shame/

when we talk about putting an end to crypto/AI/surveillance/etc because they cause significant harm to us and the environment, the people in charge love to say "well, the cat's out of the bag, there's no turning back! now that it's been shown that it can be done, we can't stop people from doing more of it!"

but now that a CEO got killed and everybody rejoiced, they're all "we must prevent this from happening again by any means necessary!"

that's because they know that our cat can convince their cats to get back in their bags.

they don't actually care about their safety as much as maintaining their money/power. if they cared that much about their safety they wouldn't be doing stuff like getting into busted submarines, making the planet uninhabitable, and making us suffer so much that everybody wants them dead.

Terrific! Paywalls are disappearing! No more 12 month embargo between when NIH funded work appears in a journal and when it becomes accessible to all (as of December 2025).

https://www.nih.gov/about-nih/who-we-are/nih-director/statements/nih-issues-new-policy-speed-access-agency-funded-research-results

A priest, a pastor, and a rabbit entered a clinic to donate blood.

The nurse asked the rabbit "what's your blood type?"

"I'm probably a type O", said the rabbit.

#joke