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In the process of moving to @joepie91. This account will stay active for the foreseeable future! But please also follow the other one.
Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
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Sometimes horny on main (behind CW), very much into kink (bondage, freeuse, CNC, and other stuff), and believe it or not, very much a submissive bottom :p
My spoons are limited, so I may not always have the energy to respond to messages.
Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.
Joined Aug 2019
transphobic/racist rhetoric, sexual assault mention
A follow-up explaining what I mean, since someone asked me for clarification:
A frequent example is tone policing of marginalized folks; the discussion of "should this marginalized group [of which I am not a part] be allowed to speak loudly, accuse, or generalize - do their circumstances justify it?"
There's other cases too, like arguing "actually police aren't racist, it's just because of higher crime numbers" or the infamous trans bathroom 'debate'. Another example of a slightly different kind would be "but can you *prove* that that happened?" to people who got sexually assaulted.
Basically anything where people cannot accept that maybe marginalized folks know what they're doing, and that they might be right even if you don't immediately see how.
That's probably the easiest way to identify the problem - people refusing to just (provisionally) believe that marginalized folks are speaking the truth, and instead approaching it from an angle of "I cannot accept it to be true unless I can reason towards it from my own understanding".
Those are the sort of discussions that one just *shouldn't* have; instead one should be listening to marginalized folks, provisionally accept that they are speaking the truth, and gradually do the work *themselves* of untangling the reasons behind it.
I want to take a moment to thank particularly the Black and Brown folks on here who have talked about and explained how to learn from them (ie. "read, don't challenge") - it has really helped me conceptualize the idea that sometimes, there are discussions that you just shouldn't be having, and often it is because it's not your place to be having them as it is not your lived experience. No matter how well you think you understand the situation.
While it's a concept that I've sort of intuitively understood for a while, I never quite understood it in a form that I could apply to situations outside of my own. This has helped with that a lot, by making it a more concrete principle.
Now I only wish that other people understood this concept too. It ends up being applicable in so many cases.
@slimepsychic On top of that, an awful lot of 'craft breweries' are getting acquired by major food manufacturers...
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There are many reasons to use a split keyboard, but this is without a doubt the most important one.
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I had a realization earlier this week as I was pondering the fact that I have spent most of my life trying to become a different, “better” (aka neurotypical) person. I grew up watching my mom do this - she was constantly reading a new self-help book, doing some new self-help program, trying a new diet, etc. All with the hope of becoming this new, “better” (aka neurotypical) person. And of course it never worked for either of us, because we were both undiagnosed autistic people, unaware of our own neurodivergence. But I always held out hope that the next thing I found would be the one to unlock the “better” person who could cope with everything I cannot.
And as I thought about this, the realization hit me that embracing this new understanding of my autistic self means that I can actually let that project go. I can stop the futile and exhausting project of trying to become “better” (aka neurotypical), and instead begin crafting a life that actually fits autistic me. This is not to say I will give up on the enterprise of personal and spiritual growth, because I do value learning and growth through self-reflection. But it does mean that instead of trying to become something I am not, I can focus my energies on trying to become and embrace who I really am. This is a freeing (and somewhat terrifying) thought. Because I know there is a part of me, like a seed, that I’ve buried way deep inside, and it is so desperate for the opportunity to emerge, and grow, and thrive. May I find the strength and courage to let it.
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Oh! FreeSewing has their own ikea style shark plushie sewing pattern if you wanna make your own trans shark https://en.freesewing.org/designs/hi/ #Sewing
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I was reading about the silent film era and thinking about how silly the word "talkie" is, and was then forced to really consider, for the first time, the word "movie"
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I've been struggling with this myself, so I thought I'd repeat it for other people that might be dealing with the same thing:
Not every hobby needs to be a project. Not everything needs to be a whole *thing* with a goal and an endpoint. It's okay to not finish something. It's okay to pick up something for a bit, explore it, start making something, and then drop it without making any "progress".
Productivity is capitalist bullshit that doesn't need to infect your free time too. Have some fun
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This is an excellent </s> time to discover that Madagascar’s weather service and disaster preparedness bureau both don’t have websites anymore and are only available on Zuckerbook.
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Do you know what genderflux means?
Do you think it's just a synonym for genderfluid?
Well, as a genderflux folk, let me explain in this thread what being genderflux means ⤵️
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"The system has been destroyed" is my favourite Android error message ever
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@slimepsychic The whole craft beer scene in general kind of feels like constructed nostalgia to me? It's really weird
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So I'm watching a couple of folks spiraling out from a distance both off and online, and. Whew.
There's ways that some ppl will use the language of mental health, claiming that they're not getting the "community" or interpersonal "support" they need....when what's really happening is that the ppl around them are exercising their boundaries, bc the personal spiraling equates "support" w/ "letting me get away with antisocial, harmful behavior scot-free"
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When someone is having whatever degree of break from reality, support actually *needs* to come in the form of someone telling them at *some* point "the way you're percieving reality right now is skewed," and that doesn't feel like support in the moment to that person, I get it. But it's what needs to happen.
- Future new account
- @joepie91@slightly.tech
- Matrix
- @joepie91:pixie.town
- Pronouns
- they/them, he/him, whatever, it's not like I have any idea either 🙃
In the process of moving to @joepie91. This account will stay active for the foreseeable future! But please also follow the other one.
Technical debt collector and general hype-hater. Early 30s, non-binary, ND, poly, relationship anarchist, generally queer.
- No alt text (request) = no boost.
- Boosts OK for all boostable posts.
- DMs are open.
- Flirting welcome, but be explicit if you want something out of it!
- The devil doesn't need an advocate; no combative arguing in my mentions.
Sometimes horny on main (behind CW), very much into kink (bondage, freeuse, CNC, and other stuff), and believe it or not, very much a submissive bottom :p
My spoons are limited, so I may not always have the energy to respond to messages.
Strong views about abolishing oppression, hierarchy, agency, and self-governance - but I also trust people by default and give them room to grow, unless they give me reason not to. That all also applies to technology and how it's built.
Joined Aug 2019
