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@joepie91 I see this a lot. Neurodivergent and neurotypical conversations are extremely fascinating to watch and the funny thing is both are correct depending on the viewpoint of the conversation.
It takes A LOT of training and education to get two people operating on different levels to have the same conversation especially when one of them was trained one way their entire life and the other is still learning how to function with their brain.
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@KuJoe The one point I would tend to disagree with is "they are both correct", because there's one significant difference: neurotypical folks are often uncomfortable with neurodivergent communication, whereas neurodivergent folks are often *actually unable* to understand neurotypical communication.
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@joepie91 they are uncomfortable because they don’t know what is happening just like the neurodivergent person in the conversation. It’s not as simple as “just change how you think” for either party. It really does take a lot of effort for a neurotypical person to even grasp how a neurodivergent person communicates and without actual training and education it isn’t going to happen (and in the US it’s an expensive process).
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@KuJoe I know why the discomfort happens. It is still a difference between "unfamiliar but could figure it out" and "literally unable to".
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@KuJoe (It also does not require any professional training, it does require a willingness to figure it out)
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@joepie91 I really wish this was true, the lack of public education and awareness makes it really hard to even identify it. As a neurodivergent I was able to recognize my kid was more like me (although it took several years to recognize it and I didn’t even know I was neurodivergent until a few years ago), but for my wife we were just quirky individuals who adjusted over time so it didn’t occur to her to change anything because she didn’t even notice.
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@KuJoe Oh sure, that is a real problem - but I consider that a cultural and collective one, for which societal awareness needs to exist, rather than something to address on an individual level. The 'actual learning how to deal with it' part doesn't require professional help, once you are aware that it is needed and why, is what I mean.
