Would be nice if neurotypical folks stopped expecting people to just magically infer their intent if they can't be bothered to say what they *mean*
ableist behaviour patterns
It was the usual pattern again:
- Someone means X but says Y
- I interpret it as Y
- I get told off for not interpreting it as X
- I point out that people should say what they mean, and that I have to deal with masking all my life, and I draw the line at being told that it is *expected* from me
- Deathly silence, conversation moves onto another topic, no acknowledgment, no apologies, nothing
ableist behaviour patterns
@joepie91 They fool themselves into thinking they mean Y. I’ve had multiple interactions where I hear Y but suspect X, ask control questions, become convinced they mean X, but still they insist on Y. Then I have to pretend Y and do X.
Sometimes it’s just them not thinking things through, sometimes it’s some stupid test whether I “got it” and sometimes it’s politics because X is the quiet part you don’t say out loud.
re: ableist behaviour patterns
@jornane I'm 99% certain that that was exactly the case here.
