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personal, "smart"
I really dislike it when people call me "smart" when really I just have a special interest in communication and therefore communicate in a way that a lot of people understand... and people end up mistaking that understanding for "intelligence" on the part of the speaker.
Like, calling me "smart" is not really a compliment, as much as it is an indirect insult to people-who-are-not-me, and I do not think that it is justified
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@joepie91 mmh yeah, it's very uncomfortable
And they always view any denial of their statement as like, self hate
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@Ember Exactly! Like, no, this is not self-hate, I just want to see appreciation for what I put effort into, not for what luck I have
personal, "smart"
Also, even if this weren't a misperception, why would I want to be complimented for something that is just part of who I am? Something that I would've happened to get lucky with, and which required no special effort on my part?