Would be nice if neurotypical folks stopped expecting people to just magically infer their intent if they can't be bothered to say what they *mean*
ableist behaviour patterns
It was the usual pattern again:
- Someone means X but says Y
- I interpret it as Y
- I get told off for not interpreting it as X
- I point out that people should say what they mean, and that I have to deal with masking all my life, and I draw the line at being told that it is *expected* from me
- Deathly silence, conversation moves onto another topic, no acknowledgment, no apologies, nothing
re: ableist behaviour patterns
The reason this especially frustrates me is because I go to rather *extreme* lengths to communicate with people on their own turf, to try and resolve conflicts, translate between neurotypical and neurospicy folks, and so on... this is a whole special interest for me.
And then I communicate in my own way once and I immediately get told off for it, with nobody in the process making even the most minimal effort to account for *my* needs or circumstances, not even bothering to acknowledge their understanding of what I have just had to spend energy to explain and 'defend' myself on *once again*
re: ableist behaviour patterns
(It is worth noting that this same dynamic, of course, exists along other axes of marginalization too. But right now I'm venting about my own experiences.)