Like all rules of thumb, this is not universal, but it ends up being accurate *very* often: if two parties are accusing each other around a FediBlock listing, look at who is answering questions and providing explanations, and who is not.

All too often one party is being very cagey and vague in their claims and accusations, making claims that are broader than the available evidence would support. This is a red flag - it often means that there *is* no evidence, and that they know it.

(Them launching into some narrative about how "everybody is conspiring against me", "someone is trying to ruin me", etc. without a credible motivation is extra suspicious - you may be dealing with an abuser.)

Conversely, if someone is being very open about what happened, and can provide an explanation that doesn't leave any gaps and isn't suspiciously *slightly* different from what they were asked, that's often a sign that they're in the right.

Do be aware that there are circumstances where this doesn't apply, and this doesn't transfer as well to other kinds of conflicts - particularly for interpersonal abuse, evidence is not always available or possible to share. Those are messier to sort out.

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