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- Pronouns
- She/They
- hangs out with people on
- https://cyberia.club
- Gender/orientation
- Demi-femme/Novi gender, demisexual/panromantic/polyamorous
- Hackerspace
- https://layerze.ro
i like kind machines. pro-people-not-dying. anti-nazi. anti-colonizer. pagan, but lazy about it.
I am #HardOfHearing, #nonbinary, polyamourous, into ttrpgs and #tech. Hobbyist #leatherworker, hobbyist scifi author, community builder, and artist.
I like to build #whimsical things that help people to #dream better and form meaningful connections. If you wanna hang out with friendly computer weirdos in Minneapolis, lemme know.
Profile image description: a watercolor painting of a person with pale skin and brown and blue hair laughing. They have a side cut and an audio processor is visible behind their ear. The art style is loose and the eyes are squinched into little crescents.
Joined Jul 2020
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Listen up all you foolish mortals:
Someone talking about a weird thing their computer did is not a cry for help. *Especially* when said someone clearly said they solved the problem.
I understand this particular platform is very-much filled with computer nerds who want to be helpful, but please check whether help is being requested before you pop out of the woodwork like some sort of Clippy
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ALL SNAIL POSIX SHELL! 🐌
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Erotic art, partially nude men
Some oil paint sketches I did a few years ago, feels like a good place to show them. #gayart #eroticart
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In case you needed to hear it, trans and nonbinary people are an important part of my life. I am happy and secure in my masculinity because they exposed me to a world where I can be anyone I want, and I finally felt peace with being a man in a society with some awful ideas about what a man should be. If you enjoy my masculinity, consider accepting other people's expressions of their gender. Daddy says trans rights.
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"[Screen readers] often stumble on PDF files, which have long been the default digital format for journal articles and other research materials"
"In a detailed survey, six scientists with vision loss described how they frequently found themselves unable to access or read PDFs. One respondent mentioned that they encountered problems two-thirds of the time, and that they use at least six different approaches to read papers"
https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-023-00645-6
So please share article links as HTML not PDF!
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J'ai eu l'occas de revoir ce dessin de #huevember2021, et je l'aime toujours bien ' ^ '
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transfemminine underthings recommendations thread, links, nsfw
Hi fedi!
Sometimes, friends or lovers want pretty underthings that are sized for trans bodies. Often, finding these things is a painful process. There's a lot of really crap sites that come up in search engines and, as someone who doesn't get squicked that same way, it's a way I can help.
This isn't a list of any particular merit, it's just the resources I'm aware of. I've bought from most, but not all, of the companies listed here and have been reasonably happy with the results.
Have a resource thread, boots and (well-labeled) additions welcome:
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alt fashion brands worth supporting [reviews], mention of dollskill, purchasing/money, police brutality
A month or so ago, some larger alternative fashion brands got hard-cancelled.
They'd been problematic for years, but some friends and I had struggled to find cool alternatives. And then one of them rallied in defense of police brutality and Geneva Convention violations, and frankly, it was the last straw. I decided that boycotting these brands wasn't enough-- I had to fall in love with their competition.
I set aside about $200 and decided I'd see what I could find from more ethical shops. If I can get threads working, this'll be a thread. :)
International Women's Day, showing some love for trans women in technical spaces
Happy international women's day.
About half the #women I interact with in an average week are #trans. Trans women make my life and the spaces I hang out in online immeasurably better. They've rounded sharp corners and added a sense of emotional availability that men just tend not to do. They bring an air of femininity to a space that helps me feel like I don't need to do extra social work to balance things out myself.
It's really wonderful.
Last week, at the local hackerspace, I had a great chat about ethical alternative clothing shops with knowledge and nuance. These conversations rarely happen when I talk to men-- not because they don't care, but just because the topic is more complicated for feminine clothing than masculine. There's deeper changes to manufacturing processes than men's clothing silhouettes seem to feel, so less nuance (and digging) is necessary to achieve a pretty reasonable effect in comparison. Anyways, it was great, and it just felt very 'normal'. But I've also never had such a good fashion conversation in a technical space before, which is interesting because fashion is a highly technical art. This was, in a small way, revolutionary.
When spaces make femininity a comfortable thing to bring, they make everyone else feel more comfortable being a wider breadth of themselves. You see wider ranges of expression from everyone. Making women feel more comfortable often helps everyone feel more comfortable.
When spaces restrict those energies, everyone feels it. When I'd been in technical spaces without women, I used the phrase "caustic culture" a lot. The feeling of this pervasive, inescapable, slow ooze that just eats away at you little by little. Since then, I've spent a lot more time in spaces without that energy. I can't think of a single online technical space that doesn't feel caustic that hasn't had trans women in it. As a professor of mine once said, correlationdoes not imply causation, but it does often waggle its eyebrows at it.
So, happy international women's day to all the women everywhere, and especially to the trans women that've helped make the spaces I've been in so comfy. So many of you are leaders, and you are all wonderful and beautiful beings capable of immense gentility and soft strength. Celebrate yourself a bit today. 💙
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Going to a wedding with my girlfriend today. In peak queerdom, I'll be wearing her old suit, and she's borrowing a dress from another girlfriend. I've also managed to successfully remove the scales I was wearing to an art show last night, so I guess that's another fashion win.
It's my first time wearing a suit to a party. I considered a very nice dress, but it was a bit tight in the hip and I was worried it may become structurally unstable should I laugh while sitting.
We're gonna look great.
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by the way, we have enough vacant, livable homes in the united states to give every single person who is homeless right now (sheltered or unsheltered, temporary or chronic) 15 whole entire homes each.
based off of:
2021 US Census Bureau vacancy statistics: https://data.census.gov/table?q=B25004%3A+VACANCY+STATUS&tid=ACSDT1Y2021.B25004
2022 US Department of Housing and Urban Development Annual Homelessness Assessment Report: https://www.huduser.gov/portal/sites/default/files/pdf/2022-AHAR-Part-1.pdf
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Simple FYI for US:
If you last had a COVID vaccination more than two months ago (and no diagnosed COVID infection since then), you are eligible for another booster under CDC guidelines.
As someone in a higher-risk group about to head off to several conferences, I got another booster yesterday. (No improved 5G reception yet, though.)
And, if you have yet to get the bivalent booster (only 16% of US has), then do it! Not only will it help protect you, but it will help protect others -- like me!
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What're some nice things I can do for a friend that's getting top surgery?
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My super smart niece with incredible grades and test scores is looking for a good college but she is having trouble finding out information about what colleges are best for blind students. She wants a good community and support network. Anyone have any recommendations? She wants a challenging school with a good balance of arts and sciences. (so not a tech school or a super humanities heavy school) She’s good at math and music. #help #questions
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RT @WedgeLIVE@twitter.com
Out of the typical 2500 resident requests, the plan is to select 10 or 20 traffic calming projects each year. Council Member Payne wants to know how the council can provide more money or staff to bump it up to 50 or 100.
🐦🔗: https://twitter.com/WedgeLIVE/status/1562972581216415744
Queer date ideas, valentine's day, overall food tips, alc mention
Generally, for food, opt for things that won't tire either of you. Frozen lasagnas, grocery store deli options, microwave veggies, boxed pasta dinners, whatever is simple to make, but tasty. It's a good excuse to try something you've both been curious about, but I wouldn't take any big food risks without a solid backup plan.
The goal here is to minimize labor/stress so that everyone has energy for a little more quality time. So go ahead, take a shortcut or two on dinner if you'd like, and direct that energy towards your time together, instead.
Drinks-wise, a bottle of wine can be a bit much for two people, but a can of it has enough for a bit more than two glasses, and is usually less expensive. I also like to use the mini boxes of wine (they hold about 250 ml?) as a decent and inexpensive choice. They also fit in the fridge better when chilling.
Queer date ideas, valentine's day, kink mention, alc mention
4. Reverse Bilbo Baggins Date (great for a triad/polycule, good for spoony or Domme hosts, kink friendly)
You know how people showed up at Bilbo Baggins house and harassed him into hosting a party? Kind of? This is like that, but consensual. The host does very little, except perhaps clean the house/provide a place to gather, and the guests cook a wonderful meal together.
Ahead of time, the guests plan dinner. This can be as straightforward as a group trip to the grocery store on the way over, or it could be something more elaborate. Plan to arrive at the host's near the end of their work day.
Once the guests are settled and their work is finished, the host takes a shower and decompresses from their work day. Meanwhile, the guests get to work cooking dinner and possibly preparing cocktails. If you have additional people, they can put a playlist together, vacuum/tidy the space, help set the table, wash dishes, or whatever else. Just try to make sure everyone has something they can do to contribute, and that the host is cool with it.
Meanwhile, the host is getting ready for date night. Maybe wearing something fancy, maybe doing their makeup, whatever, just not being involved with the joyful chaos near the kitchen.
Once appetizers, snacks, drinks, whatever, are ready, the host is served. As prep finishes, more people join the pre-meal hangout, until everyone eats dinner together.
After dinner, the host is likely to have the energy they need to engage with all their lovely guests. And, since the prep work for dinner was shared, their guests shouldn't be too burned out, either. Wink wink.
- Pronouns
- She/They
- hangs out with people on
- https://cyberia.club
- Gender/orientation
- Demi-femme/Novi gender, demisexual/panromantic/polyamorous
- Hackerspace
- https://layerze.ro
i like kind machines. pro-people-not-dying. anti-nazi. anti-colonizer. pagan, but lazy about it.
I am #HardOfHearing, #nonbinary, polyamourous, into ttrpgs and #tech. Hobbyist #leatherworker, hobbyist scifi author, community builder, and artist.
I like to build #whimsical things that help people to #dream better and form meaningful connections. If you wanna hang out with friendly computer weirdos in Minneapolis, lemme know.
Profile image description: a watercolor painting of a person with pale skin and brown and blue hair laughing. They have a side cut and an audio processor is visible behind their ear. The art style is loose and the eyes are squinched into little crescents.
Joined Jul 2020
