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@anotherperson@tech.lgbt hey there! I'm not deaf, but I am hard of hearing. I sometimes make hearing aids using the project stuff (www.tympan.org).

Nice to meet you!

When it snows overnight, there is a muffling of the morning sounds. The effect is as if you've moved cities while sleeping and have woken up somewhere much calmer-- where the morning rush never quite hit, traffic noises all swallowed by the fluffy snow.

Unfortunately, this blissful calmness is often counter to what the demands of the world want: you need to get up early to clean off the car of snow and account for traffic to get to work on time, rather than sit cozy inside, bustling away at indoor work. But don't worry, I didn't need to do that today.

Have a little photo of my alley this morning.

@trixter agreed, and tbh, I think it's kind of a shame. Especially if the kid is queer and doesn't really have any other tools for social interaction outside of that context, I dunno, it just seems sad. They flail a lot, are rude to people, and are just miserable themselves, too.

Have you found any strategies/resources that help? I haven't really found much.

I don't want someone constantly picking fights and triggering folks in rooms, but I'd also like to be able to refer them to resources other than just my own emotional labor for becoming better-socialized.

@reese

I keep wanting to make

First the psychologist
Then the endocrinologist
Said "I've got the thing,
You'll be yourself in time."

As a lyric work, but I'm just not sure it will.

White person thinking about racism, fediverse politics/history (racism), advice request, boosts welcome 

With the lovely Twitter influx, it seems like there's a renewed search for BIPOC users from two groups: BIPOC users themselves and white people wanting to diversify their daily experiences/the content they see.

It seems a bit silly that white people are asking after this, since I get the impression that there really isn't a very large community of BIPOC users anymore, due to white users harassing BIPOC users (especially black authors) off the platform. In light of this, it seems like it'd be good if white people gave nascent BIPOC communities a little space for a couple weeks, at least?

I don't want to isolate people who want to find each other, but I also don't want to put anyone on the spot/tokenize people, either. IMO, communities form best with a little bit of privacy, and that it's kind of rude for white people to expect to consume a list of BIPOC creators when it doesn't seem like there's really a large, underlying community yet.

I haven't really been sure of how best to address this situation, so I've stayed kind of quiet when I've seen requests come through my feed, but that also hasn't felt quite right.

So, two-ish questions, primarily for BIPOC users here, if you have the energy for it:
1. Does this seem like a legitimate problem to you? Is there a simple solution I'm missing?
2. Would you like me to tag/mention you, personally, when I see requests come in? Would you rather be mentioned in response to another BIPOC user, or would you like white followers just as much (idk, if they 'seem cool')? Feel free to reply via DM if that feels better.

And apologies in advance if I've gotten something super wrong. I haven't navigated a situation like this before but I think that this might be important and I would like to do a good job of it, if I can.

warm/dry clothing suggestions request 

@feesable my joints trouble me when I have too much bulk around them, so I try to go for really light but effective stuff. I live in Minnesota and like to go on dates, so with covid and the winter, I've needed to up my game. It's work to be warm while sitting down and eating dinner outside when it's around freezing.

Most of this will be for warm and not dry. Here, so long as you have good boots, you won't get wet in the winter, there just isn't the (liquid) water for it.

My favorite is layering thermasilk as an underlayer. Tractor Supply Co has the best prices on it, but it is still a little expensive, about $35 usd per top or bottom. They do seem to last well (I got my first top about ten years ago). I recommend sizing up on the bottom half/halves. These also look pretty nice under a skirt or similar, IMO. In practice, I usually wear a pair of leggings under normal pants, and then a shirt under a normal long sleeved cotton shirt, and then layer a top or two over that.

My other super secret weapon is using a stomach warmer. I prefer ones that wrap with velcro rather than elastic. I got mine here (mongolianstore.com/product/bro) for $25 usd + shipping. I did need to add a small panel so that the velcro wouldn't rip the wool (I am smaller than the person it was designed for). I really like mine, though. That site also has nice socks and yak leg warmers.

I will also buy more inexpensive long underwear (bottoms, a size up) and cut them off at the knee as to retain mobility a bit better. I usually buy these at fleet farm or whatever farming shop is nearby. They're more expensive at outdoors stores.

Occasionally, an outdoors store near me redesigns their socks. I try to stock up then. REI has good merino hiking socks, I would recommend sizing up due to shrinkage while washing.

If Wales is damp (it is, isn't it?) wool is quite good, even when wet. I just don't tend to deal with a damp cold as often.

Don't be afraid to pick up/use some hand warmers. You can get re-usable ones, disposable ones, and zippo ones. I usually just use the disposable ones.

There also now exists outerwear with batteries and heaters built into it (coats and boots I think?). I haven't used these and can't speak to them, but you might enjoy their warmth.

Good luck!

Transmasc infantilization (rant part 2) 

@shardsofblue that sounds both creepy and exhausting.

If you have the energy, do you have thoughts as to what heuristic trap is driving this behavior? Or does it just seem kinda random?

@mekkaokereke That sounds like an exhausting thing to push against. Sending nice thoughts. 💙​

I also help moderate the matrix server at cyberia.club, as well as help out with Layer Zero, a physical hackerspace in Minneapolis.

If you'd like to be involved with either of these spaces, please reach out! We're not elite-- it's just more fun to do this stuff together and you're welcome to join us. :)

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I realize I don't think I introduced myself.

Hi, I'm Starless. I am usually a soft human who likes building things, spaces, and worlds. Sometimes I paint, sometimes I program, and sometimes I do leatherwork. When my hearing is behaving, I'll sometimes make music, too.

I've built a few technical projects. Lately, I've been working on getting portable receipt printers to make cool stuff (like fortunes and quests). I have some background in manufacturing and medical devices.

Non vegetarian food(help requested), minor health, eating, boosts welcome 

Are there any food humans on fedi that could help? My psychiatrist says I should eat more liver (long story...) and the only kind locally available is beef liver. I don't eat beef, but it's at least a bit of a consolation that the animal isn't being killed for its liver. I can handle the ethical quandary myself.

But, how do I cook this thing? I don't like handling meat, but I do have a sous vide machine.

I made some liver puree (soak liver in milk, drain milk, fill sous vide pouch with liver and diced onion and garlic, cook ~130f for an hour, then whip), but I suspect two things:
1. This is undercooked
2. This tastes way too rich for me

Are there other good options here? I don't mind the metallic taste, but it just feels like I'm eating whipped butter, which is pretty gross?

Every liver recipe I see involves browning the thing or searing it or whatever and, like... I'd just prefer something easy that I can mix into rice and not feel like I'm eating lard. I don't want to feel like I'm eating beef, I'd just like something I can choke down without my body screaming 'why are you eating butter' or similar. Is it worth fighting this, or should I just try to put it on potatoes or other places I might put butter? Totally at a loss here.

Any advice? Boosts appreciated.

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edgy my little pony oc named Shooting Star. everyone thinks she's an astronomer, but she "grants wishes" by shooting people for money

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Oh god QMB has found a movie where a blind person is being attacked or something and her only hope is the person on the other end of one of those "Be My Eyes" apps that I detest so much.

We're gonna have to watch that some night when I'm not so tired. I am kind of scared of how awful it is going to be, but I need to know...

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See for Me 

Haha that taxi driver is way too willing to back off when asked, I wish I ever encountered any like that. ;)

Of course she's not using her white cane in the new place. Turns out I can't see now either because I'm rolling my eyes too hard.

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@joepie91 murderbot diaries and the long way to a small angry planet/wayfarers series stand out to me, then.

@joepie91 I have more suggestions too, but would maybe need more detailed ask

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trying to follow this instruction:

talk about the things you love, even if you think nobody cares.

people won't ask for it at least at first, but some of them will care

and it's attractive to see someone talk about the things they love.

let go of the notion that it's worthless if you don't get a minimum number of listeners, reactions, replies.

practice caring publicly about the things you care about.

I think this is a good reminder for me. I never liked being shy anyway

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