I'm sure that it was very stressful for the Fosstodon admins to run the instance.

But they could've also, y'know, chosen *not* to run a massive public instance with view-from-nowhere rules, like people on here have been begging large instance admins like them to do for years.

So no, you don't get to ignore the advice of "don't run big public instances because it's unsustainable to moderate" and then *also* complain when people hold you accountable for the predicted outcomes of shit moderation. You're free to ignore the advice but then the consequences are also yours.