One of my least favourite interaction patterns is when I try to subtly/non-adversarially communicate that someone holds a problematic belief, reference a word they used in the process, and then the response is "well no that's not what I meant with that word, I meant <non-problematic thing> instead".

Except that everything else they've said and demonstrated is consistent with the interpretation I'd used, and not with what they claim the word was meant as.

By that point there just don't seem to be any non-adversarial responses left...