@gsuberland "too much mental load? Simply reduce your mental load by writing a to do list"
It's like they don't know that writing a to do list exponentially increases mental load for someone with ADHD
@schratze @gsuberland I mean, todo lists *can* work to some degree.. just not in any way remotely resembling the way neurotypical people suggest using them...
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@schratze @gsuberland I use day-specific todo lists as a way to have a hard cut-off; once I have completed tasks for the day, I am Done(tm) with chores, even if there's nominally more stuff to do. If I don't get all of them done, they simply get rescheduled onto another day. Prevents me from overexerting my spoons trying to do everything I am "supposed" to do in a single day...
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@joepie91 @schratze @gsuberland I'm not really sure what that actually means in practice, could you describe the process a bit more? 😅
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@hazelnot The important part here is that the end of a day's todo list is the point where I no longer have an obligation (to myself *or* others) to do any further chores; I have done my part for today, there is another day tomorrow. In other words, I know where the end of the work queue is, so it doesn't feel perpetual.
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@hazelnot A variant of this, that works especially for lower 'chore loads', is to not keep a 'todo' list but only a 'done' list, where you track per day what you have done that day, but there's no queue of stuff to do. This mainly helps to fight the sense of "I've done nothing today" (which very often is your brain playing tricks on you and not actually true) by keeping an explicit record of achievements.
This doesn't work as well when many external obligations are placed on you, though, as it will not help you ensure you're not missing anything.