Do I always have my emotions under perfect control? No - nobody does, we're all human, and that includes me.

Do I mean what I say when I'm direct about my disapproval of someone's words or actions? Yes, absolutely. I fully understand how it will come across, and it is *intended* to be abrasive - it is a warning shot cautioning you to reconsider what you are doing or saying, and usually a friendlier one than you will get from many others if you continue with it.

If I tell you off about something, there is an intention behind that, and I ask that you do not try to wave it off as "they must be responding impulsively", but treat it as seriously as I am conveying it.