@scy I often can't shake the feeling that this sort of "we cannot actively exclude anyone without very good reason" rhetoric in nerd circles, is just a manifestation of a sort of collective trauma around getting bullied, and having internalized the idea that excluding people makes you the bad person (regardless of circumstances)...

That then only gets applied to *active* exclusion and the implicit exclusion resulting from "not dealing with abusive people" is overlooked in the process