politics, "civility"
As a bit of context for those who are unfamiliar: "civility" is a tool of oppression. It doesn't consider whether any harm is done at all, only whether the (pretty much arbitrary) requirements of decorum and appearances are met.
In other words: it explicitly permits any harmful behaviour as long as it appears superficially polite and 'professional' enough. As long as it's plausibly deniable enough.
And it punishes those who speak out loudly or emotionally about being harmed, because that doesn't meet the standards of decorum.
It's a favourite staple of conservatives, as well as naive "reach across the aisle" centrists.
And when someone's view on moderation is all about "civility", also a pretty damn reliable signal that they *cannot* be trusted to protect vulnerable and marginalized folks.
re: politics, "civility"
@joepie91 exactly. this is keeping legitimate political violence in the hands of a few privileged people!
politics, "civility"
@joepie91
Was burned directly by a friend like this, several years back. I'm torn between wanting him to never arrive in this space and delighting at the prospect of how he'd be received. :P