@jtolio@hachyderm.io You're not *just* in your own bar, though. You're also interacting with other communities (more like a bar crawl), who have very different expectations - and more importantly, very different *backgrounds* and considerably less privilege.

I suspect (but correct me if I'm wrong, @catzilla) that she's not asking you to apologize; but rather that she's asking you to introspect about exactly *why* the response to Hachyderm from other communities is like this.

I *will* admit that you've been considerably more willing to listen than the other reply guys on my post, which is good - but I do also agree that there's a power imbalance that you don't quite seem to understand yet, and that's really important to introspect on more.