@Deiru@gensokyo.social @Jenkar @ghost_bird DMs go to the servers that participate in it (if this was a DM it'd only go yo gensokyo.social, cybre.space and pixie.town) they're not *too* private as there's no E2E so any of our server admins could technically go into their database and read the dms, but you should kinda trust your host anyways