The three main schools of trans feminine sexuality thought as far as I can tell (what little thought there is because trans people in general have been forced into the sexual closet by a horrible medical and social establishment... yes, this is partially a community issue) seem to be "those who don't like erections or can't attain one and do other things," "those who are post-op and worry about that," and "those who think trans people shouldn't want to fuck at all"

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The first two are totally valid viewpoints and understandable. I'm not here to shit on them. #3 is a puritain outdated view that's deeply misogynistic and implies women and especially "trans women" (because there is usually no other type of trans feminine person to these types) shouldn't want to orgasm.

But I don't fit in any of these. I may not like my dick but I want it to work. No, nothing else is really a substitute. Yes, I've tried many things. Many. Many. Many things. No I don't need a lecture on sexuality. Although I'm always learning new things, I generally know what I like and dislike

And so far most medical professionals sans one have looked at me like I grew a third head when I said I wanted to be able to do penetrative sex. Even other trans people seem to be a little like "umm why would you want to *do* that?"

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Hell, I'm still the only trans person I've even heard of who uses erectile dysfunction drugs. I bet a lot of people don't even know that's an option. Yes, you can totally get Viagra, Cialis, etc. And they're surprisingly affordable (unless you go to Walgreens...). I get more than a month's supply for $15, and insurance won't cover it so that isn't a factor.

God, why is the trans community so... iffy about people who just want to have normal sex???

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@Elizafox it may just be where you are. the folks i know are totally accepting and some even greatly want that :p