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i'm like back in that hole* with like "people say it doesn't look anything like a natural one" or "it has medical issues a lot" or "it's really gross and high-maintenance and it's not going to be anything like a cis person's junk" and it'd actually be cool if someone who's knowledgeable could tell me how much/little i should be worrying about this stuff these days
Good Girl Energy
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@Kat I'm happy to chat about this stuff anytime. I know I'm lucky to have gotten one covered by insurance so I try to pay it forward in being a resource.
I've had several partners and non-partners who have plenty of experience with cis vaginas that say that visually they wouldn't be able to identify mine as a neovulva unless they were extremely familiar with the faint scar marks I have.
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@AzureHusky mostly I’m wondering if it’s like safe to go to most decent surgeons or if there’s like 1-2 out there who do it well and everyone else does it shitty or something, people always tell me like “this doctor does it really well” and I don’t recognize any names at all haha
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@Kat you can try going to transbucket.com and looking at people's results and reviews. But yeah it's also just talking to other people who have had it done and figuring out doctor based on that. I'm happy to tell you my experiences with GRS Montreal and Dr Brassard: I'm happy with the outcome but can prepare you for some of the kinda ehhhh parts of the process too if you go to him
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@AzureHusky @Kat I'm lined up for surgery with Dr. Brassard once I get some documentation squared away, and I would love to hear this too if possible
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@elfi @Kat also a bunch of their paperwork is, I think, poorly translated from French and so sometimes says things that are confusing or downright offensive (like one piece of paperwork that warns that orgasms after surgery will be "mostly psychological" when I think what they mean is that you'll have to get used to not having the easy physical evidence of orgasm like you do with a penis)
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@AzureHusky @elfi "it'll only FEEL like you're having an orgasm" thanks that's the only part i wanted
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@AzureHusky @elfi sometimes cis people have really odd ideas of what trans people want from transitioning too, even/especially doctors
it's wild
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@AzureHusky @Kat I feel that pretty keenly already, my medical packet didn't have the annex for sleep apnea they wanted and I had to get them to send me the PDF. Fortunately I had a sleep study done already so I just need a copy of the results to send along with it
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@AzureHusky @Kat spoiler alert: I don't have sleep apnea, just insomnia, which is a surprise to nobody ever considering I'm talking about this at a quarter after 1 my time when I've been in bed for over an hour
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@elfi @Kat absolutely. Feel free to hit me up with questions. The main thing to know is that GRS Montreal does a beautiful and attentive job and also absolutely sucks at communication when you're not there. So just, like, if it feels like they're giving you the cold shoulder they aren't, they're just really busy and need like ten more nurses to handle communication