Okay, everything I've found seems to be either very straight, very neurotypical, very prude, or all of them, so I'm looking for recommendations!

What I'm looking for:
- A hookup site or app of some kind, ie. it is clear that people are there for hookups and not just (performative) long-term relationships
- Sex-positive, and not prude; a good indicator is having/allowing nudes in the public profile listings
- Kink-inclusive, including hard kink, and a meaningful amount of people who practice it and talk about it openly
- (But not just bottoms/subs)
- Meaningful amount of neurospicy folks, and/or ability to find them specifically, eg. no endless performative "I don't really care but am asking about how you are anyway because that's the social convention"
- Predominantly queer (especially genderqueer), and I mean *queer*, not just "a million straight guys with internalized queerphobia who occasionally want to fuck a guy"
- But not femme-only (you know, the whole "we say non-binary but only mean the femme non-binary folks" thing)
- Preferably non-commercial, but that's only a nice-to-have if it meets the above criteria

Very bluntly put, I'm trying to find other autistic folks who want the same things I want and who are just as tired of all the neurotypical social handshake stuff that often goes nowhere.

Does this exist? I know that the joke is that fedi is this platform, but unfortunately that only seems to work if you're in Germany, which is not that useful to me as someone in the Netherlands... though I'd be happy to be proven wrong!