meta, communication styles
I've noticed that the (autistic?) practice of "repeat in different words what was said to explicitly acknowledge it and incrementally add onto it at the same time" often gets interpreted as "mansplaining" on here and I'm not sure what to do about that
meta, communication styles
@joepie91 TIL one of my basic modes of communication is considered mansplaining. Dang.
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@farhaven I mean, it's not quite that simple - it depends a lot on who's talking to who. There are some clearly identifiable differences between this pattern and mansplaining, but... they may not be so clearly identifiable to people unfamiliar with the pattern, and that's usually where conflict happens.
Basically what I'm describing is a form of miscommunication, rather than people genuinely believing on a moral level that these two are equivalent (at least as far as I can tell).
(The issue gets complicated further by people who *themselves* both use this pattern *and* also mansplain, which also happens, but is avoidable if you try.)
meta, communication styles
@joepie91 I tend to add a note like "all by way of agreement" to indicate my intention explicitly. That seems to help?
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@joepie91 I have personally experienced my verbosity being called out as mansplaining. In particular being enthousiastic about certain subjects and enjoying to tell others about them :|