personal, on 'giving advice' and the intersection with ADHD 

I sometimes run into toots where it's not clear to me whether someone is looking for advice or recommendations.

The common suggestion is "ask whether they want advice first and only elaborate when they say yes", but this doesn't really... *work*, with my ADHD brain, it requires focus switching that I can't do.

So instead, in these cases, I often reply with the advice or recommendations, but behind a CW along the lines of 'unsolicited advice' or so.

It's perhaps not ideal, but still leaves people a choice whether to engage with it, and hopefully communicates that the advice is provided as a support offer, rather than as eg. an assertion that I know better or that I expect them to do something.

So far, people seem okay with this approach, and I'm glad of that.

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re: personal, on 'giving advice' and the intersection with ADHD 

(To emphasize, this is for the cases where a) I suspect that they *might* appreciate advice, and b) I actually am knowledgeable on the specific topic in some way. It's not a magical free pass to comment on anything and everything, of course.)

personal, on 'giving advice' and the intersection with ADHD 

@joepie91@social.pixie.town This is so relatable

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