LB: broadly speaking, the reason you feel that civility and "peaceful protest" work fine for you, is probably because you're part of the demographic that the system is built for.

It's not the civility itself that makes it work for you. It's your position in society.

More marginalized folks do not benefit from such a position, and telling them that they should be less radical and more civil to accomplish things is... well, a very good way to show your privilege, let's put it that way.