I've been existing on this globe for 30+ years now, and frankly I have well run out of patience for oppression apologia.

But perhaps the worst part of this is when people tell me "you should be nicer about it, maybe they just don't know about the problem, you catch flies with honey and not with vinegar"

Like, why does this automatically become *my* burden to bear? Why am *I*, as an already marginalized and exhausted person, expected to accommodate people's ignorance to these topics, without any similar expectations being placed on the other person who has been passively enabling said oppression?

Like, don't get me wrong, I already put a lot of time and energy into educating people about oppression, by my own choice. I recognize the society-level need of such work. But if you *demand* from me that I do that, then fucking hell, you really need to think about your own privilege.

How about you do that work *yourself* if you think it's so fucking important that you're entitled to rake me over the coals if I'm not perfectly polite 100% of the time I talk about systemic oppression?

Instead of demanding that I yet again spend my precious little remaining energy in life on handholding someone who has made zero effort to introspect critically on their own role in society. ​