@Nezchan@wandering.shop @Sirsquid@toot.io Precisely this. And it's even more of a problem when people are *demanding* that something be explained to them, as if they are somehow entitled to someone else - generally a marginalized person who is *already* disproportionally affected and exhausted by the topic - doing free emotional labour for them without even bothering to do a first pass of research themselves.

This is why "educate me" is an unreasonable demand to make. You can almost certainly afford to do the work more easily, than the person you're demanding to educate you.